(Closed) I dont like my engagement ring….but its my mom’s who passed away, what do i do

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think its beautiful the way it is, but what about adding a halo of diamonds?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it is beautiful. But if you want something more, could you add 2 diamonds to either side?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was going to mention the halo too.  Or adding a similar sized diamond on either size.  I think it’s pretty as is though 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Ouch – at first I was going to suggest putting it in a new setting but now that I know your husband already did that..I won’t suggest it. I think you’ll grow attached to it, I think it’s beautiful! My ring isn’t that big, either. I’m getting a wedding band on each side of my e-ring! Maybe you could get another wedding band on the other side? That would add some bling!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think your set is beautiful as is!  It looks like it’s very “blingy”… but I agree that you could try a halo setting so that the center looks bigger (though I honestly think it’s perfect the way it is).  🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

1st,….get it cleaned. My ring doesn’t sparkle at all right now…it hasn’t been cleaned since August

And like the others said…consider ways that you could alter it

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I second Lee’s suggestion of a 2nd wedding band. I made the BIG mistake of telling Fiance I wanted the ring reset before our wedding and I totally regret it. I don’t know what I was thinking. The thing is, he spent a LOT of money on a big, beautiful diamond with an excellent cut and great color and clarity, then put it in a kind of masculine rip off of the Tiffany 6-prong setting. I didn’t like how high it is and how thick the prongs are if you look at it from the side. It’s a lot of metal and a little masculine.

Once I said it I immediately regretted it. It really hurt Fiance, that’s the ring he proposed to me with. And he LOVES the setting. And really, I like it too. I was just being a little princessy. I feel so bad about it, I apologize to him all the time. And he’s sweet and doesn’t get mad. But I can’t take back how I hurt him. I’m trying to help you out now, when you look at the ring remember all the love that went into it for it to get to your finger and forget about resetting it. Go get your 3rd ring!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Could you wear it as a right hand ring and have your husband buy you another engagement ring?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

i think its gorgeous the way it is.  But one thing you said stands out to me “i feel like my ring looks dark from the metal and dosent sparkle.”  Go to a jeweler and have it redipped (Id do both of them actually.)  When I got my wedding band, my e-ring looked darker.  My jeweler took a look and explained how the rhdoium rubs off gradually, so the metal actually looks darker.  When its redipped, it whitens it.  Made a HUGE difference for mine.  Try that, and also, I like the halo idea or the second wedding band idea if you are truly unhappy with it. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My diamond is also my mom’s old stone. It too is very small, at .33 carat, which sometimes I care it’s small but most of the time I don’t. My Fiance had a custom jewler make a gorgeous setting with diamonds all down the band with twists in the side and a halo of pave diamonds around the center. I get compliments all the time on how pretty and “high profile” it is.

I think getting a halo would be pretty, and not only a halo on the center stone but get two stones for the side with halos on those as well. That would make the ring sparkle and shine for sure!

Talk to your fiance about doing it as an anniversary present and that you want to have a little more bling now that it’s been a while and you want an upgrade to really show people you are married!

I think it is important to have the sentimental value… I love that my diamond used to be on my mom’s hand. Very neat.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

How big is the stone versus what size you were looking for? I think on your hand, the size is perfect. I personally wouldn’t want anything much bigger because I use my hands a lot. I really like the ring my Fiance got me, even though it’s not that big.

From the photo, it looks like your ring could just use a good cleaning. Soak it in a shot glass with Windex. Seriously, it does wonders!

On another note, my mother passed away when I was 12 too. If my Fiance had gone through the process of getting my mother’s ring, I don’t think I would ever be able to change it. Only change it if you want to, don’t change it because society says you need a bigger ring. I think the sentimental value of your mother’s stone and the setting your Fiance designed for you combined trumps every big flashy ring out there. My only suggestion with changes would be to add two stones on either side so that it is more of a three stone ring. I think that would look nice without changing the style so much.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

If it were me, I would suggest getting your mom’s diamond set into a pendant, and getting a new diamond for your ring. I would explain it as how you would like to pass on your mom’s diamond to a daughter someday, but you don’t want to have to give up your e-ring to do it. This way you could keep your ring with the setting he chose, and create a new piece of jewelry to become a family heirloom. Good luck!

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ditto Nexus-6. I was thinking the same thing.

Can your Fiance afford a new, bigger stone? A carat is going to set him back a few grand. Its’ better to know ahead of time so he can save if he’s open to the idea.

A friend of mine is having side stones added to hers for her 5 year anniversary.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I also like Nexus-6’s idea.

Since you feel the ring isn’t as sparkly, maybe you could look into your options for having it recut?  The carat weight might not change very much but the brilliance and fire could be radically different.

Another option is a 5-stone ring, maybe like this?  I think they’re gaining a lot of popularity (especially on pricescope) as e-rings.

http://www.bluenile.com/diamond-anniversary-ring-platinum_487

You could use your mom’s as the center diamond and flank it with smaller ones for a unique graduated effect… I think these are gorgeous.

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