(Closed) I don't like my ering

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I would keep it. That is a very nice ring with great specs so you know your Fiance put a good deal of thought into it. And he doesn’t notice people’s reactions most likely because he is so excited and proud of it himself. If it was NOTHING like you wanted then I could understand the issue but really that’s pretty close to your ideal ring. It’s just a little bigger with a couple little side stones added and the ring should be a blend of both you and your Fiance. I’d hang on to it because such small changes wouldn’t be worth hurting my Fiance over. The more you wear it the more normal it will look and feel to you. And pay no mind to other people’s reactions. It’s not for them it’s for you and your Fiance.

Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

nervousbridetoobee:  I just wanted to chime in and tell you that your ring is beautiful! I wonder if the silent responses could be that people are marveling and have no words or might be envious. I absolutely love your ring and for myself personalliy, it’s not too big or too busy. But if it really is making you feel uncomfortable having a big diamond, I would just tell him and see if you both will agree to getting something more simple.

Post # 48
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6702 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Honestly, it is a gorgeous ring, and I think a stone that size does well with a small supporting cast like yours has. Sometimes a large solitaire can look even larger and more prominent without any side stones. If your job sometimes calls for something less ostentatious, I would either wear a plain wedding band or buy a smaller stand-in, but I wouldn’t give that beauty up. I think you would exchange it for something smaller and then look back and wonder why you did such a thing. If you aren’t used to wearing jewelry I can see how it might be an adjustment, but it really is beautiful.

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

nervousbridetoobee:  I am 99.9% certain that any lack of enthusiasm from your friends is pure jealousy as most people would love that ring but never be in a position to afford it. 

However if you are sure that even if they loved it, you still wouldn’t, then perhaps you should broach whether there is a possibility of returning or exchanging it. As others have said though, diamond shrinkage syndrome does happen and if you are unused to wearing jewellery, maybe you should give it a chance. It is so lovely; classic and elegant. Your Fi made a huge effort with this so be sensitive if you raise it with him. 

Post # 50
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395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I think your friends may be a little bit jealous. It is a very pretty ring. If you really can’t see yourself wearing it everyday, I would talk to him about it.

Post # 51
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910 posts
Busy bee

Holy crap that ring is stunning! The first picture did it no justice. 

Post # 52
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4815 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

nervousbridetoobee:  Your ring is gorgeous – and when you have a wedding band next to it it won’t look so big.  I have a 3 ct. center stone and with my wedding band it looks much smaller than it did by itself.  

Your friends are speechless!!  I would be too!!  Enjoy!!!!!

Post # 53
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1357 posts
Bumble bee

Your ring is GORGEOUS!!!!!! it’s stunning!!!! OMG girl!!! What’s not to love!???? Can I trade you??!?!?!

Post # 54
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144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Home

I have to agree that your ring is absolutely beautiful! And its not even the type of ring I would pick out myself either but it is amazing. However, it isn’t me that is going to be wearing it everyday for the rest of my life. I would gracefully broach the subject with him and ask if there’s an exchange or return period and wear it up to that day and see if you start to get used to it. 

Post # 55
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320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

nervousbridetoobee:  honestly, I’m not a big fan of my ering either.  I like it, but not entirely my style. I brought it up to Fiance  about getting a 2nd one (cheap gemstone) and he was upset about it since he did pick it out himself. I decided to keep it due to sentimental value and even though I’m the one wearing it, it means something to him too. Maybe you can have a 2nd one like I was considering and what a lot of other Bees have. I’ve already told him in a few years I get a nice anniversary band 😉 Good luck!

Post # 56
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894 posts
Busy bee

Oh my God…Your ring is ring porn! Those pictures showed it way better than the first! I can stare at it all day…

I also like single stones rather than 3 like that, and I think you should just take the 2 on the side off to make into earings to match, but I DONT think you should change that center stone! Its beautiful! 

Post # 57
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1143 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Your friends are jealous! That ring is stunning! 

Post # 58
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Do you have an update on how you are feeling about your ring? What size carat did/do you want? I posted a similar post and had to delete do to negative comments (I have a 1.01 carat solitaire) but you post with 2.7 carat diamond and you get only positive responses. do you really not like it or do you just want  complements ?

Post # 59
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10572 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Op- you have a beautiful high quality diamond! My advice to you, is to talk to your SO, about having it reset in a low profile solitaire setting. I think later on you would regret trading it in for a smaller diamond. You would be surprised at what removing the side stones can do for the overall size appearance of your ring. Yes it will still look big, but it will also look more classic and understated. Then once you get married you could get a plain wedding band. Plus it wouldn’t lose the sentiment because it’s still the stone he chose for you. Since wearing rings is new to you, it could just be that your not use to it. You need to find out when the return policy is up. If you have a few more weeks, then I’d give this ring a chance, you may love it once your use to it. And if you still have the same feelings after this,then look into resetting the diamond.  As far as your friends go, they are probably just gawking over your gorgeous ring. It’s also possible that they are jealous. Don’t let their opinions effect yours!! Goodluck to you! 

Post # 60
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

nervousbridetoobee:  I think its important to love your ring! I would wait and see if you start to love it. If not, then sit down with your Fiance and explain you gave it time and its beyond beauitful but itsnt quite your style. See how he reacts and search your options. Personally i think the ring is beautiful and i think picking out a band(s) might make a difference for you. But what really matters is how you feel about it. If you feel it might be devestating to him…then i would probably keep it to myself and learn to love it. The ring i got was not at all what i expected or wanted but i fell in love w it quickly and now i cant imagine wearing anything different!

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