Post # 1
This might seem shallow, but I’m going to go ahead and say it anyway because I have no place else where I can talk about how I really feel about my ering.
My boyfriend of 2 years and I got engaged just over two weeks ago. We are both 24 and live together. Well, to put it bluntly, the ring he got me has the smallest diamond I’ve ever seen. Here’s a link to the ring: http://www.tiffany.com/jewelry/rings/tiffany-bezet-round-GRP03632/tiffany-bezet-round-25326954?fromGrid=1&search_params=p+1-n+10000-c+-s+1-r+-t+25326954-ni+1-x+-lr+-hr+-ri+-mi+-pp+0+1&search=1&origin=search&searchkeyword=25326954&utm_source=google&utm_term=&utm_campaign=PLA+-+Siver+Jewelry+Campaign&utm_medium=cpc&utm_content=7kRdU7pW%7cpcrid%7c81319036573%7cpdv%7cc%7c&gclid=COffl4C3rsgCFReUfgodudUALA
I wasn’t expecting a huge flashy ring or anything, but I was hoping for something at least a little bigger than .16 carats. I do appreciate the Tiffany ring, but honestly, brand doesn’t matter as much to me as the overall look of the ring. My fiance makes pretty good money (about four times as much as me), and he’s bought himself at least a few thousand dollars worth of tech equipment for his hobbies over the last year. He is a very nice guy, and treats me well and wants me to be happy, but I can’t help but be disappointed with this ring. I am a horrible, materialistic person probably for feeling this way, but I just need to get it out.
I want to tell him how I feel, but I am worried about hurting his feelings. Should I tell him, and if so, how do I even bring it up?
Post # 2
Don’t beat yourself up about it. You’re entitled to have a preference for your engagement ring. And .16 is really small even though it is good quality.
I’d be upset too if my Fiance spent less on my ring than he does his hobby.
Is it possible to bring up getting a bigger diamond? I think Tiffany has a trade-in/upgrade policy.
Post # 3
Tell him. then return ring and both pick out together. he could of got you more at that price.
Post # 4
As his fiance, you probably know how to speak to him best without hurting his feelings.
Did you talk about what sort of ring you wanted prior to this? Or did he go in blind? That can help you frame the conversation.
As with other “important” conversations, generally, I think it’s best to not beat around the bush and just be honest:
“Honey, I love the ring, but what do you think about exchanging it for…”
Post # 5
Definitely return it if your not in love Tiffanys has great customer service and you should be honest with him. YOU have to wear it!
Post # 6
Vent away! Nobody is going to judge you here. It is a very delicate ring, isn’t it? What about if your wedding band were a fancy-ish eternity band? Or you get one of those engagement ring enhancers? Maybe like this? You can Google Image solitaire enhancers for ideas to see some of them.
It doesn’t make you horrible or materialistic, don’t worry. I guess another tack to take might be to say that the ring is beautiful but you might not be certain about the style? If cost is an issue there’s another option – Moissanite (cheaper diamond alternative – if you search it you’ll see tons of info on it on the rings boards). At least if there’s some way to broach the topic (gulp) and then you can have some of the control with the final choice.
Post # 7
somethingbee: I showed him a picture of the Tiffany flower engagement ring a couple months ago when we were talking about rings, which may have been where he got the Tiffany idea. I have been in love with the Tiffany flower ring for years now, an it has always been the ring I wanted. It’s says on the website that it’s a .6 carat ring though, and the starting price is $4,900, which is probably significantly more than my .16 carat ring. I’m almost willing to take a chunk out of my savings and pay the difference just so I can have the flower ring lol (wish I was kidding, but I’m actually kinda serious).
Post # 8
I guess there’s no real good way to approach the situation but it’s probably best to bring it up sooner rather than later before it becomes pent up resentment over the ring. Plus you guys are getting married and this way of open communication can only be good practice for a happy marriage. Good luck!
Post # 9
Talk to him about it. As gets said in lots of these kinds of threads: you’re going to marry the man, you should be able to talk to him about a ring.
If you’re worried about hurting his feelings, I’d emphasize all that you do like about it (and of course, all the care and thought he put into it), but just say that you’d prefer if you both could look for a different one together because this one isn’t quite “you.”
Post # 10
Well yes, it is a big difference- the price is on that link. 1700. You should tell him how you feel if you cannot love it; don’t totally throw out the idea of dressing it up with bands though!!
Post # 11
mimi472: If money is the issue, look into diamond alternatives such as moissanite, white sapphire, etc. You can get the look of a much larger diamond while spending less than your current ring was. The stones I mentioned are good quality and are great stones on their own but you can also upgrade to a diamond later if you want. My ring is a moissanite that is equivalent to a 2 carat diamond but my whole wedding set cost $1,300. Just a suggestion.
As far as talking to your fiance, maybe you would frame it more as an issue of the style not suiting you rather than just the stone being too small and suggesting he’s cheap.
Post # 12
mimi472: We are both Mimi’s yah. Anyway no offense to Tiffany but you could have gotten so much more for that price. (just looking at the list price) I had mine custom designed. you could take the pic to a jeweler and they could create something just as lovely for a 3rd the price. I would kindly explain this to him and ask if he can take it back. If you go with a stone not a diamond you could get a lot more too. you are going to have this ring for the rest of you life. So you better like it. It maybe your first tough conversation as a couple. Good practice.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t be happy with that ring at all and I speak as someone whose ering cost 100 pounds. I prefer something more substantial and one of the main reasons Darling Husband never buys me jewellery is that he knows I will be blunt if I hate it.
You should talk to him and exchange it. Its not him that has to wear it. Can we see a handshot just for reference? I have a .3 centre stone but because my fingers are slim it looks proportional so I don’t mind
Post # 15
Well you can’t return at Tiffany, but within 30 days you can exchange. I would switch it and pay the difference for your flower ring. If it’s too late for that id get a custom wrap made.
If you don’t want to do that and have a little patience…. Id get the flower ring for an anniversary and switch the bezet to your right hand.
I know it’s petite but it is beautiful and I’m sure high quality. Remember it doesn’t have to be your last ring, but it’s a lovely first!
Post # 16
And in your talk… I would focus on how much your heart was set on the flower, not geez this is tiny way to cheap out.