(Closed) I don't like my ring

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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Helper bee
Post # 48
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Newbee

Drizzle:  then why does the ring matter? He spent a crazy amount of money on it, it’s not like it’s a cheap ring. 

Post # 49
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Busy bee

I can not understand how some women need men to spend a lot of money on the ring, or expect him to pay more for a ring than for his hobbies, It’s a RING, nothing more! And it doesn’t mean a man loves you less only because he doesn’t spend thousands of dollars on a ring. OP, I think your ring is beautiful. The diamond is small, but it’s classy and beautiful. I understand your disappointment if this really wasn’t what you expected, but your boyfriend bought you this ring! Isn’t that good enough? I wouldn’t tell him that you’re disappointed, it would probably just hurt him. Try to get used to it and maybe you can get an upgrade in a few years.

Post # 50
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Sugar bee

I think that it is gorgeous, just the fact that it is platinum makes me drool. But it doesn’t matter if I like it, it’s not on my finger.

Post # 51
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Bumble bee

For what it’s worth I love your ring! It’s a great design! as another poster mentioned it’s a great ring for stacking with other Tiffany rings for anniversaries ect. I don’t think it’s fair necessarily to compare his spending on the ring to his hobbies. Maybe mention how you want to stack the ring every few years from special occasions. You can also help choose one hellva wedding band too! 

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

dalia88:  For some people, the jewelry they wear is important – like clothing, only you wear it every day. You don’t have to understand it, but you just have to accept it without judgement. 

OP, it is  very small ring. Talk to your Fiance and be honest. And there’s nothing wrong with putting your own money toward your ring so that you can get what you want. 

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

sybillamae:  The ring matters because it’s something she thought she’d be wearing everyday for the rest of her life, and unfortunately, her fi has picked one out that she doesn’t like. If I spent $1.700 on something for my husband and he didn’t like it, I’d definitely be a bit disappointed that I got it wrong, but I’d want him to tell me so we could exchange it for something he loved. 

However I’d be unlikely to buy him a big ticket item he didn’t want because I make sure I find out his preferences. So he actually picked out the $8,000 Breitling watch I bought him when we got engaged. I did fly blind when I bought him Cartier cuff links for his wedding present, but I got assurance from the store that they would exchange past the usual 30 day timeframe and before the wedding day,  I told him I’d bought him something but he might want to exchange it and that was fine, I had the receipt. When I buy a gift the object is making the recipient happy, not indulging my personal tastes. My mum loves massive, blingy costume jewellery that I’d never wear. Do I buy her understated, classic jewellery? No! I buy her the massive, blingy costume jewellery that she loves. 

The OP can love the giver, love the thought behind the gift, and still not love the ring when she looks down at it. That’s a shame and unnecessary, because there’s an easy fix, it’s not a tatoo. 

Post # 54
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Helper bee

He is the man you are going to marry, talk to him. Maybe he just didn’t know you cared so much about the ring? Talk to him. My fiance makes decent amount of money but I didn’t want him to spend extral. He was saving for this 30k tiffany ring but it is way too over priced. I buy all my stuff  from Tiffany and yet I refuse to buy my engagment ring there because the market price ( since I like simple design there is no point buying it from tiffany. The diamond is what i care more about. I am glad i found out and stopped him and went to Blue nile picked the diamond with similar stats and saved us ALOT of money. He thought I wanted that ring, but it was really ugly.. He didn’t pick the simple one. The good thing  is he is my bff and he dose not get offended. We are uber happy with my rign and we saved ALOT. My mom bought us our wedding band from tiffany, as a gift. I talked to him about it since my mom wanted us to save money(because she knew I always wanted that ring from tiffany but it cost alot) and wanted to give us a gift . He was okay with it :). Talk to future hubby, if you can’t even bring up a ring conversation how can you bring up other more important conversations? you are not too materalistic, you have to wear that ring everyday. You should love it 🙂 You only get one ring, make it count ! I would definately pay for the ring together if he is okay with it. 

Post # 55
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I second Sporkette’s suggestion, exchange it for a wedding ring and get a bigger, cheaper e-ring somewhere else. 

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