- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2001
Beware, this is a long post. Sorry in advance.
Ok so, there’s this guy “D”. He recently just got married and we all don’t/didn’t like his wife. When I say “we all”, I mean my sister, her fiance and my fiance’s friends. My sister is marrying my fiance’s best friend since 4th grade. It’s amazing isn’t it? That’s how me and my Fiance met, through my sister. So we’re all connected through the guys. Thanks sis!
Anyways, I’m getting off track. So, when D and “S” were together, we rarely saw him at all. The only day we really got to see him at all was the day of the wedding. He’s been MIA for a long time. Which is understandble, for the most part. Now even before D got married, he’s been known to be flaky. So on D’s birthday which was in Nov. he had called everyone out to eat at this brazillian buffet and we all came out and celebrated it with him. Then my fiance’s birthday comes along in Dec. and I try to get everyone together to have dinner. But…guess who doesn’t show up. The reason why he chose to miss out on his best friends bday dinner was because his little yorkie dog broke a nail and because it was bleeding. They didn’t want to leave the dog home alone with a broken nail. I mean is this guy for real? We just spent $500 bucks on his bday dinner (paid as a group of course), and he has the nerve to say to me that he couldn’t make it because his dog is hurting from a broken nail. I mean don’t get me wrong. I LOVE animals. Absolutely love them. But missing out on your best friend’s bday dinner for that is just wrong. I took it more offensively because I could see that my F was disappointed. Another friend “J” was really sick from the flu and recovering, but he still made it out to the dinner. Thank you “J” and “M”.
On another note, D’s wife has told him repeatedly that she thinks his friends are a bad influence because they don’t go to church. We know this because D tells his friends what his wife is saying, etc. Honestly, get over yourself. Your not so high and mighty yourself. What gives you the right to judge other people on their personalities w/o really getting to know them. And honestly, she hasn’t made the effort to get to know us at all. She doesn’t want to.
Everytime we ever had a get together, I still asked them to come out (before they married) and I still get the boring ass excuse even to this day, “I’m sorry I can’t. I have church.” So now everytime we have a get together, I don’t bother asking them to come, because I don’t want to hear excuses anymore. I’m tired of it. I’ve tried my best in involving her into our group but she declines it every chance she gets. So now we’ve kind of “ex-ed” them out in everything. And guess what happens. She complains to him that his friends don’t like her because they never call them out anymore. I mean is this chick for real? She has become the wife that everyone doesn’t like. I’d hate to be that kind of woman who does that to her Fiance’s life long friends for over 20 years. She’s basically the reason why D doesn’t come out anymore. So maybe it is more her fault than his. But I mean, have some balls and stand up for yourself.
And lastly, my fiance wants him to be a 3rd groomsman, but I only have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man. I wanted it even, two on each side. I know the unevenness shouldn’t matter and it really is no big deal either, but I honestly don’t like this guy anymore. I don’t want him standing up there being next to my Fiance just for the sake of being up there. He hasn’t been a good friend to my F at all these days. Does he still deserve a spot up there? I mean yes, they’ve been friends for over 20 years now, but D has really changed. He’s not a good friend, in my eyes that is. I don’t know if I’m taking this too far or if I’m reading too much into it. But the fact is that I don’t wanna end up like being like S so…I guess I should just shut my mouth and let my Fiance have him up there. Any advice is welcomed.