(Closed) I don't like the e-ring ):

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

In your place, I would say that you’re afraid of damaging the opal through everyday wear because opals are so delicate (which is true), so you want to wear it as a special occasion ring while wearing a simple band with CZs or small diamonds every day. This is a scenario where I don’t think it’s bad to tell a white lie to avoid hurting your guy’s feelings instead of coming right out and saying you don’t like the ring.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would ask if he would be open to you resetting the opal, especially if you paid for the new setting. How did you know he was going to propose with the opal? Did he tell you beforehand?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

How much was the ring according to his budget? Did he spend all of his budget, half of his budget, etc? Is there enough left to get another ring and not put him out? Maybe you could contribute to the new ring?

Did you say you wanted an opal and yellow gold? Or did he just randomly pick it?

 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’d definitely check if the seller would accept an exchange, it’s worth a shot. Sorry you don’t love your e-ring, Bee. 🙁

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Red Rock Canyon, Las Vegas, NV

Firstly, congrats on your engagement! That’s so awesome!! 

 

Normally I stick with the “if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say anything” but I have to say that I don’t blame you. Do you know how much he paid or where he got it? It looks to be a late 80’s or early 90’s design. I would tell him. Your ring shouldn’t be just any random ring he can afford. It should require some thought. I’m sure there were much better options in that price range. He could get a sterling silver CZ ring for about $50. Or something nicer like this… 

http://www.amazon.com/Solid-Highest-Quality-Zirconia-Engagement/dp/B00CPFGN86

 

The the other option is to get it reset into a solitaire. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee

You don’t know what to tell him? Try this:

“We did get engaged 5 days ago and I am so happy about our engagement, eccstatic really! I have been wearing the ring every day since and seeing if it will grow on me but I just really don’t like it, plus I’m super worried that I’m going to end up damaging the opal. Every time I bump my hand against a desk or door frame I feel this wave of panic!”

Congrats on the engagement! Keep in mind that HE is the keeper and the ring is the keepsake, and, typically, an e-ring is never the last keepsake he’ll give you.

Patience, Grasshopper. 😉

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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wonderous:  I second Grid’s suggestion of asking for a return from the seller. You could tell your Fiance that you are so pleased that he remembered that you love opals, but that you just found out, while showing your ring off, they are not the best idea for a ring that will be worn every day. You are concerned and wonder if he thinks it is possible to exchange. 

 

Congrats on your engagement! 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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wonderous:  I think I understand how you feel about this ring, I also love opals and I think it’s beautiful, but I would never feel comfortable wearing an opal ring period, much less as an engagement ring.

I think the sooner you talk to your Fiance about it the better, it’s a beautiful ring, but not versatile enough to represent your love every day!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Thats a hard situation. I can absolutely see why your not the biggest fan of it, it does look a bit dated. I second emailing the seller and seeing what they can do.

<br />Did you ever discuss erings and what your style is? That is a very unique ring…..so unique that unless specifically requested I’m surprised he would just buy it, and hope its your taste.

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