(Closed) I don't like the e-ring ):

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Busy bee

He loves you and he would want you to be happy with a ring that’s a symbol of your love. I would be honest about it and tell him i’m sure he will understand!

Post # 17
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Helper bee

Sorry you’re in this situation. I would just tell him that while you truly appreciate him getting a ring with an opal in mind, that opal’s are not good for every-day wear. And that perhaps you and him can work together to find something that you love and would feel happy to see every day on your finger. 

To be honest, your ring is not really my taste either, as the setting is rather outdated. So if I was in your place I would definitely not be complacent about this, and I would get the ball moving on making this right.. I know this might be a delicate topic since you have to tell your Fiance that you don’t like the ring he got you, but it also seems like he just chose something because it had an opal which he knows you like and was within a certain price range, so I would let him know that even though you like opals, they are not a “forever” type of stone. Maybe you guys can look into moissanites or other types of stones that you feel would be better suited as an e-ring.

This ring is definitely the type where the wearer would need to love this particular style in order to wear it. It’s not really like a neutral type of setting. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee

I wouldnt contact the seller without talking to him. He seems like a sweet and thoughtful guy and would probably be hurt if you came out and said youd already looked into seeing if you could return it.

Just tell him what youve said here but make it sound non critical, you love the opal but think a pendant would do it more justice, and that youd be more than happy with something delicate and simple for your e-ring. If hes open to it, suggest that he contact the seller and that if the seller agrees on credit you could look through the store together.

Goodluck 🙂

 

 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee

I often vote not to complain but this is kind of a weird situation and I know if my BF gave me this ring as an engagement ring I would end up talking to him and telling him as politely as possible that I appreciate he knew I liked opals but I just always imagined something more traditional looking but that it could be some clear stone other than a diamond based on your budget. I guess I find this strange that someone would buy a random vintage opal ring for an engagement ring. I don’t think I could hide my disappointment from friends and family showing them a random gemstone ring that wasn’t my style.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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wonderous:  Some men really have no concept of rings. My DH would have been lost in the sauce without my help lol! The ring I have now is not my first….it took some time to find my forever ring. Its easy for others to say “Oh its just a ring” BUT to some ladies loving their wedding set is a must. I totally understand that. I will be wearing this set for the rest of my life and I want to be smitten with it. There is nothing wrong with that.

Talk to him,be honest. I’m sure he would rather you be happy then to take it personally.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Also to add…if there are other rings you like from the seller I bet they would exchange it for you!

OMG that second ring is to die for!

Post # 24
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212 posts
Helper bee

I am of the opinion that if you dont like your ring, you should tactfully speak up. Dont feel bad. You arent selfish. It’s completely understandable to not want to wear a ring you dont like every day for the rest of your life. Maybe he could save up and buy a different one within a year that you help pick out, and yall could sell or trade in the opal ring. if it has only been a week, they might let you return or exchange it, too. A week isnt that long.

Post # 25
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Could you take the materials and have it remade into a custom piece? Like make a halo from the little diamonds around the opal. You may have I get a few more but tiny diamonds are very inexpensive. There’s plenty of gold to work with.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Red Rock Canyon, Las Vegas, NV

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wonderous:  how do you feel about bezel set? They can be great for protecting fragile stones. 

 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Opals are very delicate. Though a bezel setting or a halo may protect the stone more than a prong setting, I feel that it would still only be a matter of time before the stone broke. My mother has a gorgeous opal ring that she wears. It is set with four round opals and she breaks them all.of.the.time.

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