(Closed) I don't like the e-ring ):

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Maybe he wanted you to say “Yes” to him and not the initial ring? My new DH proposed with the uglist, cheapest piece of crap he could find … on purpose!  Just so he would know that I was saying yes to HIM and not a bling fling ring.  I highly doubt your man will make you wear this extremely outdated ring for the rest of your life. Just wait and see, I bet he has something up his sleeve!<br />{hugs}

Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I would speak up about it.

Post # 49
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Oh yes, he did! – I kept my “ugly duckling” ring (because it reminds us of his pure intentions). The ring he bought for me 3 months later is what you see in the pic on the left of my posts. I gave him the chance to be wonderful, and he did just that.  

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

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alainndiamant:  I guess if you’re into passive aggressive proposals…

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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alainndi: Seems like a tactic that an undercover prince would do, haha. I’m sure, normally, that isn’t the case though and guys mean well but choose incorrectly. Give him a chance to rectify things OP and quick. That way he won’t feel betrayed instead of informed.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

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alainndiamant:  ” I highly doubt your man will make you wear this extremely outdated ring for the rest of your life”

ehhh… I dont know about that. Most guys know 0 about jewelry and she said she liked opals and yellow gold so he probably thought he knocked it out of the park. 

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Cory_loves_this_girl:  

My thoughts exactly. 

To the OP: I really like the idea of just buying a fancier band for the wedding and then keeping the E ring stashed away for occasions, that way you don’t have to hurt his feelings! 

Post # 54
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My ring is from an Etsy seller. “Officially” they do not accept returns, but when I messaged them beforehand, they said that if I didn’t like it I could return it. I’m sure they would accept an exchange–especially if you traded up even a tiny bit and then had to pay the difference.

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Sephiroth:  LMAO RIGHT! Hey I don’t trust your intentions and I think your a gold digger. will you marry me? 

I would be seriously offended.

Post # 56
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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alainndiamant:  Ah, nothing says love like using a proposal to test the person you love. I would be giving the ring back and telling him where to shove it.. But you actually seem quite proud about it.

Post # 57
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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wonderous:  Does your Fiance know that an opal could potentially break? Maybe approach the conversation from that angle. Its a legitimate concern, as is not liking the ring.. I think you should talk to him and go from there. Its not like you don’t like your ring because you want something more substantial or expensive, you just want something more ‘you’.. Which is completely reasonable.

Post # 58
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Busy bee

You need to be completely upfront and honest with him. Tell him that you are afraid of damaging the opal because they are a soft stone. You said he is not jewelry savvy so explain some things to him. Even look up opals so he can read about them.

I have had 2 opals in my life. And they both broke. I am very hard on rings, like you, constantly bashing them on something. 

Post # 59
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Helper bee

I agree with PP, see if the vendor will allow you do to an exchange. I don’t see why they wouldn’t make an exception here. 

Re: the joke proposal with the intentionally ugly/cheap ring – That just smacks of narcissism. The words “pure intentions” definitely don’t come to mind here. I would be insulted and humiliated, personally. 

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would never trust a man who pulled that kind of crap on me  (the cheap/ugly ring as a test)  I alo think it was rude to refer to the OP’s opal ring the way you did 🙁  <haking my head>

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