(Closed) I don't like the outfit my mom picked out. Should I tell her?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I would tell her and show her the episode of Golden Girls.  But my mom knows I am brutally honest.  Tell her you don’t want her to look like an old lady when she’s not an old lady.  Tell her to save the gold sweater for the nursing home!

I would be constructive though and show her some pictures of outfits I do like and think she will also like.

Post # 4
46331 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Aquaria:  I would suggest that we have a girls’ day together- go shopping and out for lunch.

That way you can have some input.

I don’t normally think the bride should have any say in what the MOB wears, but there are exceptions to every rule.

If you don’t live in the same area, I would email her a few alternatives without mentioning my feelings about her chosen outfit.

Post # 5
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Aquaria:  I say no – she’s an adult and gets to pick her own clothes.

That said, you could find a an outfit that you like and think she might like and send her the picture along with a very casual note about, “saw this and thougt it could be another option to consider.  This color/style/whatever would look great on you.” 

Post # 6
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I also am usually the type of person who thinks that adults can pick out what they want to wear and the bride shouldn’t have a say in it. In this situation, though, it might be one of those things where later she looks at pictures and says “why didn’t you tell me I looked like an old lady?!” I have a feeling that if your mom really knows the outfit is too old for her, she won’t want to wear it any more. So, yes, I would say something about it to her, but be nice about it. Something like, “Hey mom, don’t you think that outfit is a little too old lady for you? It looks like something from the Golden Girls! You can totally do better, you should get something more flattering!”

If after all this she still wants to wear it, though, you have to let her wear it. If you say something to her about it, the ball is in her court at that point, and it’s her choice.

Post # 8
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Aquaria:  LOL. You could probably seal the deal by saying something along the lines of, “Those pants don’t seem to flatter the model very well.  What do you think about that cut?”

Good luck!

Post # 10
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

There’s nothing you can do if she really has her heart set on it, but maybe you can be really nice and point out that you think another outfit would flatter her more. Make it about how nice she would look in another style.

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