Post # 17
@msong: I think you look beautiful and elegant in the first one, but after seeing the second picture you posted, i see where you are coming from.
From an objective person – you are gorgeous in your dress. But as far as personalities go, i see where they reflect very different feelings, emotions and personalities.
Post # 18
@FoxyBride14: My thoughts exactly. The dress looks like if you removed the straps it would have a sweetheart neckline. I think the dress is beautiful as is but I would talk to your seamstress about an alteration.
Post # 19
- Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle
Normally I’d stay stick with it, but I really think the dress you can’t get out of your head looks nicer and willl be much better for a beach wedding.
The v-neck lacey one looks like it belongs in a church.
Post # 20
I think the dress is gorgeous and you do not have broad shoulders/back or any of that, you have a great body. I do agree with you that there are some aspects of it that are not flattering comparing it to the other dress you posted, however they are NOT the straps, which I prefer on you! I think the other dress fit you better around the hips, while your current one seems a bit big on that aspect, it’s also more of a mermaid than the other dresses you posted which makes it sexier (IMO) it just needs to fit better! It really does seem a bit big tbh
I think the dress is more classic and timeless. I don’t know if it’s possible but have you considered lowering the back V? Have it come to around your mid back, it should give the illusion of your back being slimmer (not that its broad AT all) and emphasize your waist if the tip ends right there or slightly above. You could also lower the buttons to have them finish at the “hump of your bum” emphasizing the curves 😉
I can tell the dress has an inner corset, you could swap it out for one that has a low back to give you the support and make the above alterations possible 😉
The dress is gorgeous and you look beautiful in it, the lower back and also, maybe not lowering, but widening the front, so that the straps are more off the shoulder than where they are now, would make the dress unique, modern, sexy, fun and still classic and timeless. Also, tighten it! Its a bit big sweety 😉
Post # 21
I really think your dress looks better than the strapless ones.
Post # 22
Could u not just remove the straps from your dress if theyre the part you hate? Looks like the dress has the proper structure and would be easy enough to do.
Post # 23
I don’t think your gown is unflattering by any means, but I agree that it’s not the best for a beach wedding. There is the option to have it altered to strapless and also put an overskirt (in chiffon or tulle) to make it more like the Finisterre, but I would question how much that would cost versus buying a new dress.
You can definitely try and sell it on a site like preownedweddingdresses.com or oncewed.com.
Post # 24
they are all gorgeous but the Uncia is breathtaking. one life one wedding pick what you really want.
Post # 25
Thanks everyone!!! @minipenguin – thanks for the esp. detailed thoughts, appreciate it!!
It might be that my seamstress is simply unhelpful / not that good (?) … she said it’s not possible to really make it strapless or straps thinner, lower the back much more, unless I basically want a much different, simpler dress because the dress would then lose all the nice patterns around the strap/ chest / upper back area, etc. etc….. Do you think it’s true?
I saw her point so didn’t ask her to make any alteration this time, but maybe it is worth going dramatic with the change if I don’t like it??? Would be cheaper than buying a new dress, which is at least $1800 I think……… But I’m looking at pre-owned options for my dream dresses.
Should I perhaps try a dramatic alteration anyway?
Post # 26
@peonyinparis Btw I’m trying to sell my dress online at a loss to those websites you do mention – no one is biting haha…. I feel bad, my dress IS a very nice dress!!!
(and thanks to everyone else who likes it on me… very kind of you with nice comments :-))
Post # 27
@msong: I think you should take your dress – or at least photos of it – to a different dressmaker for a second opinion before you do anything.
Certainly making the straps thinner, the v-neck deeper, the back lower and adding more poof to the skirt via a slip would make quite a bit of a difference.
But I don’t think you should switch dresses. I will generally support a bride changing her dress when it doesn’t suit her and the options are clearly better. But that is not the case here. You look stunning and the dress is gorgeous.
Plus I feel your dress is going to stand the test of time a bit more than the others. The European designers (of which Pronovias is one) are moving away from strapless dresses and towards dresses that are more like yours. I’m also seeing a lot fewer strapless dresses from the high end designers this season as well. (Not to say that strapless dresses are dated yet – but they might be in future.)
Post # 28
@clairebbbear – Thank you so much for detailed tips, also.
Yes I will go to the seamstress(es) and see if I can figure something out.
Appreciate your point about standing test of time – that’s what my mom says, too.. haha….. maybe I can get a cheap, knock-off Uncia for my reception and get two dresses lol….