Post # 1
I don’t know what to do!! I bought a dress and loved it. I tried it on my second time looking and it was not at all what I expected. But I loved it.
I waited on it for a few days and was incredibly indecisive, but everyone was telling me that I needed to get it because time was ticking (8 months to wedding). So I decided to buy it and almost immediately had doubts! my friends told me I was silly and that it looked great..and that I can’t really do much about it anyway since I already paid for half.
It came in..3 months later! Which was waay before they had estimated. This made me upset because I thought that I could have taken my time. Now it’s 4 months to the wedding and I have this expensive dress that I like, but don’t LOVE. I want to love it, but I just don’t! I’m really upset about it..and I don’t know what to do. I’ve considered looking and buying off of the rack..then selling this one online, but everyone thinks I’m crazy!
Am I crazy?!
Post # 3
awww do you have any pictures? im sure it great! what made you fall in love with it the first time? think back to that….
Post # 4
You’re not crazy. I was in your shoes exactly a year ago. I also got married on Memorial weekend. I had doubts from the moment I bought my dress. I kept looking even after I ordered it but I didn’t want to spend more money so I kept telling myself it’ll be ok once it arrives. Well, it arrived 6 weeks before the wedding and I hated it even more. For some brides it’s just cold feet but for some of us that nagging inner voice that you picked the wrong dress is sometimes correct. With six weeks to go, I went on a mad dash to find another used or sample dress that I liked more. I did find the right dress, but I had zero time to make any modifications to it or accessorize. Alterations were done in a rush too and it didn’t fit as perfectly as it could’ve. Since you say you never fell in love, and you still don’t love it now that it’s arrived, I think you may consider trying to sell it and find a new dress. It doesn’t hurt to look. I wore both dresses (one for ceremony, one for reception), but I can tell you I felt a million times better in the second one. Worst thing that can happen is you will almost surely lose money on the first dress, but if you can afford it, it is worth feeling beautiful and confident on your wedding day.
Post # 5
yup, i agree with meliss. go look around some more – and don’t let anyone talk you in or out of anything. go look byyourself even! i did that and it was always less stressful.
then you can even sell the other dress to make some money back, sell the second one too after the wedding if you want!
Post # 6
I bought my dress too rashly since I got engaged with only 5.5 months to the wedding. I started to have cold feet and discovered the site, preownweddingdresses.com.
The waste of a wear once dress never sat well with me, and the chance to have a couture work of art that was worn for just a few hours at 50% or 75% off had a strong draw too.
I have a dress now that I really do love. i tried it on (the seller was local) and left with it…no waiting to see what would arrive months later from China, errrr Spain.
My original dress still hasn’t arrived, but I’m selling it unwarn, untried-on, unopened on the same site, hopefully without loosing too much money. I’m hoping that my total cash loss (I’ll sell the couture number again too) won’t be more than I was planning on spending outright before I discovered this site.
Post # 7
@meliss: I loved your recaps and I am wondering which of the dresses you didn’t like (I wasn’t on WB early enough to know if you ever posted which of the dresses you loved more than the other). However, your advice sits right with me. I know you posted something like this on a dress thread I opened too. Thanks and once again, I loved your dress and mantilla veil. So beautiful!
Post # 8
@bRooklynRocks: Thanks so much! I hated the mermaid Lazaro on myself. I thought it was the most beautiful dress while it was on the hanger, but everytime I put it on I just felt fat and awkward. I had tried on a sample four sizes too big and six inches too long, and people always tell you “it will look great once it’s your size” but somehow on me it didn’t. The store ordered size was still too big and the dress didn’t lend itself well to alterations. I do like my pictures now, I guess it wasn’t as bad as the image in my head, but that also had to do with little changes my mom made the day before like covering up the excessive cleaveage. Thanks again for your comments. I’m looking forward to seeing which dress you picked. I’m sure you’ll gorgeous whichever one it is.
Post # 9
Oh, thank God I’m not the only one! I just bought my dress today, and already I’m having second thoughts. I have 6 months till the wedding so I’ll sleep on it, but I may have to get another one. I’m so glad I’m not alone in this problem.
Post # 10
These are a couple of pictures I do have. This was at my first fitting. I had a lot of mixed feelings that night! I guess what I think stood out to me the most about it was that it was a nice fit for me. But I’m a pretty spunky person..I always wanted something different. This is much different than I thought it would be!
It’s Maggie Sottero’s ‘Caleigha’. I’m just not sure what to do. I would feel silly looking again, but at the same time..I really do. Who knows? Maybe it’ll give me peace of mind and I’ll fall in love with mine all over again? What do you guys think?
Post # 11
i think its pretty except for the halter strap….the way it angles back to your armpits looks weird. other than that i think it’s very nice. try a crinoline underneath it to give it a little more volume (if you haven’t already). i had what i thought was dress regret..when mine came in i got it fitted, etc and when i left the shop that night i was thinking to myself ‘i dont LOVE it..but it’ll work’. then, once i got completely dolled up for my bridal portraits i loved it and i loved how i looked. maybe that will happen for you too.
Post # 12
I think you look beautiful in it! Any specific thing you are unhappy with?
Post # 13
I LOVE your dress, but not crazy about the halter, but thats just me! =)
Post # 14
I also, love your dress but am not crazy about the halter strap…
Post # 15
Your dress is lovely! Maybe you could ‘spunk’ it up with accessories? It’s amazing what a few accessories can do to the overall look!
Post # 16
that dress is gorgeous on you! once it’s fitted, you might feel better about it.