(Closed) :( I don’t love my dress

posted 11 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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5 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had this exact same dilemma.  I bought a dress my second time dress shopping on impulse and I stopped liking it like 4 days later.  After months of stressing, I ended up buying a new dress at a sample sale that I love.  I plan to sell my first dress, but I don’t know if anyone will buy it.  I felt soooo much better once I found a new dress.  After mistakenly purchasing my first dress, all I wanted to do was look at and try on more dresses.  Now that I have my new dress, I don’t have that same longing to look for more dresses because I love my new one.  

I do think you look great in the dress you have, but if you don’t love it, find something you do love.  It’s your only wedding day.  But if you could find a way to accessorize or alter your current dress to something you love, that’s always an option too.

Post # 18
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1114 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I love it and think you look amazing 🙂 as some have pointed out im really not too crazy about the little halter strap. it would look a lot better strapless IMO!

Post # 19
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

i am going to be the odd one out here and say, i actually really love the halter strap! i think it makes the dress really unique. . . .not like every other strapless dress out there. you look great!

Post # 20
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3605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

im not a fan of the halter but when i read that OP called herself a spunky person i thought it might suit her personality because the straps are different

btw i love the dress

Post # 22
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1495 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

My dress is similar to yours (it’s not Maggie though haha… I wish!) Anyway, I bought mine and didn’t LOVE it.  It was ok, I thought it was really beautiful, but I honestly didn’t even want to try it on for fun and just look at it because it just wasn’t quite right somehow.

But then I got it fitted and everything changed.  It really is amazing how different it looks and you feel when it’s fitted and you have everything on! 

If you’re planning on reselling or something, maybe getting it fitted isn’t such a hot option, but if you still kinda love it, maybe consider doing that first before looking for a new one?

Post # 23
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198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

you’re not crazy!  I have less than 3 months to go and just sold my original dress and bought another one online.  Like you, I loved looking at my dress, it was BEAUTIFUL but it wasn’t ME.  It didn’t feel right, too poufy, and I felt self conscious in it.  I ended up buying a different style, much more simple dress.  I feel so much less anxiety about it now.  I really thought it was going to ruin my big day so did what made me happy.  My Maid/Matron of Honor told me I was nuts but I am much happier now!

Post # 24
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62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think the dress is beautiful on you!  If you want to make it more “spunky,” what about adding an editorial-like fascinator or hair piece?  I agree with the other poster, that accessories can really make a difference.  Have you seen any that you like so far?

Sticking to the dress itself, I think you should be able to wear something that YOU love.  It is a very special day, and you should feel happy when you get dressed.  It will set the tone for your day.

Post # 25
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1696 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I think it’s pretty! But ultimately it’s your decision. I’m not sure that everyone has that “I do moment” with their dress. Apparently you and your mom are supposed to cry… and it’s just THE perfect dress for you! I believe you can find the dress, but I also believe you can like other dresses and regret what you chose for yourself.

I’m saying this because I picked my dress in one day. I absolutely loved it when I had it on… I didn’t realize (or say) it was the dress until we went to the veil room. But I talked to my mom and she agreed, we should buy it. It wasn’t an aha moment, and nobody cried. But it was beautiful and I was smiling the whole time. I keep looking at the pictures of it and going back and forth whether it’s too simply or too this or that. But I honestly think it’s beautiful and that’s the dress I’m going to wear.

Not to mention, my mom paid some MONEY on that thing, and I refuse for it to go to waste. Now think about your dress and whether it’s truly worth the money to get THE perfect dress. Or if you’re ok with the one you have now? It can only be your decision. I’m sorry it seems like other people pressured you into it though. Geez!

Post # 28
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2620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@maybridedee: I’m going to have to agree and say that the dress looks spectacular on you! But the decision is ultimately yours. You can get on here and 10,000 of your fellow bees can tell you that it looks fabulous, but if you’re not feeling it, keep looking. I know it’s a lot of money, but are you going to regret it if you don’t do something about it while you can?

I tried on several dresses that I really liked. But every time I would say “I really like it, BUT….” And there was always one thing that I didn’t like, that really couldn’t be fixed with alterations. So ultimately I didn’t settle and eventually found a dress that I really LOVED. I think it’s worth it to keep looking if you feel strongly about it and can afford another. Don’t let others influence your decision. It’s about YOU :o)

Post # 29
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103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Take a deep breath and rest assured that I feel for you… I was in the same boat. I felt rushed by family and friends to “just pick one” and I went druing a maggie trunk show so I had the added pressure of getting a discount. I placed my order and pretty much the very next day I knew it wasn’t a smart move. I bit my tongue and waited the 4 months for the gown to come in.

When I got the call that it was in I was sick… litterally nausious because I just knew in my heart it wasn’t my gown and sure enough it was not. It was gorgeous but I didn’t love it. I looked at myself and thought it’s beautiful gown BUT. thats were I stopped myself: I shouldn’t say “but” in regards to my wedding gown. I came right home and listed the gown on every preowend site I could find but decided not to wait until I sold the gown to start looking again.

When I went back out to search for gowns I went alone (something I can’t reccomend enough!) I had time to spend looking at myself in the gowns and making a decison for myself before someone would say “too fluffy” “too clingy” “not a big enough train” etc. I found a dress that litterally made me swoon when I put it on and in that moment I knew that it really didn’t matter if I sold the other gown or not: this was my wedding dress!

I wish you luck and I hope you decide to follow your heart and find the gown of your dreams!

 

Here is my “beautiful but not me” gown

And my “perfect/swoon/dream come true” gown!

 

Post # 30
Hostess
7103 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@maybridedee: Aww I love the dress, it’s beautiful. I don’t like the halter though, I don’t think the dress needs it.

Post # 31
Member
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Your dress is gorgeous.  I absolutely LOVE the halter strap! You look fantastic in that dress! But it also has to be what you want.  

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