- 2 years ago
- Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON
I feel for you and understand where you are coming from. I got married in 2008 and out of my dh’s family only my SIL and her daughter attended. I always made it a point to attend his family functions when invited but I noticed when we invited them we were lucky enough to get his sister and his niece. My mom died in 2014 no one showed up to the viewing or funeral from his side of the family and I find that very disrespectful. We now have a son and his mother now wants to have a relationship? Screw her, she couldn’t even come to our wedding. SIL says her mom is socially awkward but I feel she only wants a relationship now because she wants to see her grandchildren. We went to SIL ‘s for Thanksgiving and dh’s aunt (MIL’s sister) had the nerve to say she feels like we are not really family because we never call or come to see them! They live an hour and a half away and they didn’t make the time before our son was born so they were lucky to even see us for Thanksgiving. We usually go to dh’s sister for Christmas too but after what his aunt said and the more I think about it I rather not see them. Dh is on board, he doesn’t have a good relationship with his family and I have a heart and feel bad dh’s mom hasn’t seen her grandson since October (Canadian Thanksgiving) but really I shouldn’t care because they didn’t at our wedding. SIL and our niece make somewhat of an effort but it is always on SIL’s terms and at her house. I think this year I just want to stay home and have a quiet Christmas. No travelling, less drama! We will see my family Christmas Day like we always do as we should, they have always supported us and have always been there!