(Closed) I don't mean to be judgmental but when someone

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ignore it, it’s only Facebook. 

Post # 4
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Yes, it’s very poor form. No one is entitled to be invited to a wedding, not even family (at least not merely by virtue of them being family. I mean, you should invite your parents if you have a good relationship with them, but are under no obligation to invite a shitty parent from whom you are estranged).

Ironically, it is usually people who totally wouldn’t be invited under any circumstances that demand on social media that they be invited. Like, that girl you were in one class with in college 5 years ago, or the colleague you never speak to and don’t really like from work etc. I can’t even fathom embarrassing myself in presuming that someone invite me to their wedding. I might jokingly say it to my best friend… because… obvs. but otherwise, so awkward. 


Post # 6
46971 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ap2010:  I always find it odd when someone prefaces judgemental remarks with

“I don’t mean to be judgemental…”

Of course they shouldn’t post such  comments.

Post # 7
565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You’re a third party reading a comment not meant for you. Do you even know their relationship?

Post # 8
2511 posts
Sugar bee

It was probably a joke, for all you know that person is the MoH

Post # 9
3046 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I did that to my sister. But I am the MoH and I was joking 😛

Post # 10
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I had a friend comment on one of my wedding posts saying “I better be invited to this one” because recently we had a couple in our group of friends get married and he was left off the guest list. Most of our friends agreed this was strange but the couples choice, and we reasured him he would be invited to ours (we r closer friends anyway). To a third party I could see someone thinking that was rude but I knew what it was about and had no issue with the comment. I did however have one of my moms friends FB message me asking abt her invite (yeah she isint invited), so ppl do use Facebook as a tool to be rude at times. Point of my little story is, you just don’t know, so let it go. 

Post # 11
3246 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

When I told my maid of honour I was engaged the first thing she said was, “I better be invited to this wedding” before congratulations or anything! It was very funny. 

Post # 12
1643 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Yah, that is rude.

I was recently asked outright by a friend of my FIs – so are we invited? I said yes, they would get an evening invitation, to which she replied, awh we’re not coming to the day? That’s s#*@

Some people are just plain rude! 

Post # 13
3108 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Ap2010: Once again you’re being weirdly obsessed with FB when it has literally nothing to do with you. How do you know that the person who commented isn’t the girl’s “bestest best friend”?

And I hope you didn’t “curiously kill a cat”…it’s curiosity killed the cat…

Post # 14
2275 posts
Buzzing bee

That sounds like it was a joke, especially since the couple isn’t even engaged. It’s a pretty common joke, too. I don’t think it’s rude. 

Post # 15
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Miami, Fl

carolinabelle:  Glad to know I’m not the only one how has noticed her obsession with Facebook. I haven’t even been on this site for that long and I have noticed.

To the OP, ignore it and myob 🙂

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