(Closed) I don’t really have friends who are girls!

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2021

I have this exact same problem!

I have one absolute best friend that I knew was going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. But other than that there weren’t that many other people.

So i started hanging out with some old high school friends again, and got close to a person I actually wasn’t that close to in high school. But i asked her to be in the wedding and i just make sure we hang out at least once a month and talk to her a decent amount and just leave it at that. 

It’s working for me!

Good luck.

Post # 4
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I don’t really have a good set of girl friends either. I only had family as bridesmaids, and I’m glad I did it that way. There wasn’t any drama.

Post # 5
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t really have any girl friends.  I’ve always been a tomboy so it took me quite some time to make some really awesome friends (2).  However, since DH and i moved, i have no one and my attempts have failed miserably so my DH’s best friend is my best friend

Post # 6
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I don’t really have friends in the same town as me. My BMs are friends from college, and we’re scattered across Georgia. It takes me a while to get to know people. I’ve been in my current town for 2 years, and things are quite spotty with the girls I have met. I was just thinking about this today. So basically, I don’t know how to answer your question. But you’re not alone!

Do you have good friends who live far away who can be your BMs? I wouldn’t just pick anyone, especially if they don’t like to hang out with you as often. What about your sisters or his sisters?

Post # 7
71 posts
Worker bee

@mandigrl04: Oh I am with you!  I have never really had my group of girls.  I had a few that I hung out with in high school but I pulled myself away because they were nothing but drama.  I have tried to make some new girl friends myself but that hasn’t quite panned out for me and my best girl friend and I work opposite schedules and are both super busy. 

My boyfriend is my best friend too and luckily I have 2 amazing sisters that I am extremely close to so they are really my only female friends lol. I have always kind of wanted the tight knit group of girlfriends but at the same time I get along with guys so much better.

Looks like I will stick to my only 3 female friends and my bf’s sister for bridesmaids lol


Post # 8
3010 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yeah, I am going through the same.  Never really had close girlfriends.  The only one I have is my Maid/Matron of Honor and we live an hour from each other now.  Plus she’s a full-time working single mother.  Her life is dedicated to her precious son.  So, I rarely even talk to her these days.  SAD PANDA!  Anyways, guys were always the friends in my life.  But not so much anymore.

Post # 9
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I just posted something similar last night. I have moved 3 times since college and just dont have any close girlfriends anymore. And I really want some! I want some girls to have fun with and be my bridesmaids, and it depresses me when I think about my wedding without a bridal party. And who will come to my bridal shower?

I think like others have said, I’ve been better friends with males throughout my life. It’s hard for me to find a nice, down to earth girl to be my friend without any drama and backstabbing. And like you said about getting ditched, I am not really the life of the party. I’m more quiet and contemplative. So people don’t ever think “well we have to invite her because she’s so much fun!”. I get left out sometimes. The sad part is, I think I make a great friend!

Anyway, I totally understand where you’re coming from, and it’s lonely.

Post # 10
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Wow, i am shocked at how many girls here dont have many gfs. I too dont have many girlfriends. I have some friends but not good enough to be best friends. They usually have their own circle of friends and i am not welcome or i am not interested in their groups. Its a good thing and bad thing especailly if your getting married cause your brides maids are your siblings and a person you never thught would be in your wedding. Or no one, you just go by yourself. Which is akward for your husband.

Post # 11
689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Same, so my bridal part is gonna be smaaaall. Just my sister and his sister. But he wants a million guys to be groomsmen. I don’t know what to do. He wants his dad (he was recently his dad’s best man), his brother, my brother, and his best friend. I’m sure he would have NO problem adding more. The only thing I can think of is to get my brother internet-ordained to officiate, but other than that I have no clue what to do. /sigh I wish I was more like my sister who has 3 maids of honor (yeah I know) 4 bridesmaids and 3 flowergirls. Jeez!

Post # 12
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

my darling Future Mother-In-Law told me that cus i dont have chick friends that i cant have a bridal shower…gee thanks…the funny part, i have chick friends but she dosent know them so they dont count..

Post # 13
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I feel for ya! I had three best friends that were girls, and well lets just say, I grew up and they haven’t. It’s pretty sad but I’ve basically cut the straw between us and now my only friends are FI’s guy friends LOL It also doesn’t help I’ve never really been able to get along with girls so I hate FI’s friends girlfriends aswell. Needless to say, when I have a night where I start to b*tch about eveything, this is definatly one of the top ones LOL

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