Post # 1
Ladies, help! I got married in march and because I was unsure what kind of ring/ wedding band I would want , I decided to use my grandma’s set. This set is pretty, but its really not me (its an older style and the center stone is large in my opinion) and for this reason, I leave it in the safe at my parents house. I feel really terribly about this because although my husband doesn’t tell me, I am fairly certain that he doesn’t like that I don’t wear the ring. One thing that you should know is that I am an Occupational Therapy student, and so I am not sure this ring is best for my future career (I will be wearing gloves at work). What do you guys think? Should I ask my husband to fund a small wedding set for me to wear everyday that I am more comfortable with, or should I get my grandma’s set out of the safe?
Post # 3
@acmckay589: I personally love it. But maybe a stand in ring for work would be okay.
Post # 4
@acmckay589: Tell him how you feel and that you want one that better fits your career. If he cant afford to get you the band you want go to a department store and get a fake til yall can afford it. That way it still looks like your married!
Post # 5
@acmckay589: You could wear just the band…I’m sure your work won’t mind that.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Well if you really don’t like it you should get a new set. Otherwise I think you should wear the band, but wear the stone for special occasions.
Post # 7
@ValerieBee03, Its not so much that my work wouldn’t let me wear it as much as I am not sure that it would fit well in gloves. Also, the band looks strage alone because it is a guard, so there would be a large hole between the two sides.
Post # 8
Hi @acmckay589: first & foremost I see that this is your DEBUT post on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
I too think your ring is GORGEOUS
You are soooo fortunate to have a family heirloom
I take it the photo above is of Your Ring & His (the wider band)
You might want to get a WBand that is similar for yourself, and just wear that when you are working… and slip on your “Sparkly” one when you are home / going out etc.
I am a Bee with 3 Rings (ERing & 2 WBands) and I often wear my Plain Gold WBand alone if I am going to be doing something that I think would put my Diamonds / Ring / Setting at risk.
Makes perfect sense.
As for leaving yours in the safe… ya I am guessing that might upset your New Hubby.
I know my guy wouldn’t take well if I was doing that continually.
Hope this helps,
Post # 9
I, personally, adore your grandma’s set! But I like vintage and wear an heirloom ring myself! Could you wear just the band on a daily basis so that you don’t have to worry about it poking through gloves? That way you get some of the sentimentality of wearing your grandma’s ring without the big pokey stones getting in the way. Then you could wear the diamond ring when you want to dress up a bit! But if you really don’t like the diamond ring then you could always get a different one. I would hate to lose the beauty of the original setting, but you could also consider re-setting it into a style you like better. But if you keep it, you can always feel special because it’s not like every other ring you see!
Edit: I think I misunderstood – is the band on the bottom your husband’s ring? I thought that was your grandma’s band. You could just get a plain band to wear day-to-day and wear your grandma’s set when you aren’t at work.
Post # 10
@acmckay589: I think its GORGEOUS, but I understand that heirloom is not everyone’s style. What about getting a new band (with or without stones, whatever you like best) to wear on a regular basis, and pull this set out on special occasions?
Post # 11
@acmckay589: If you dont want it, I’ll take it! Jk. But seriouslyl, that set is STUNNING. I love it.
But you could always get a regular band to wear at work. I dont think thats unusual.
Post # 12
I think it’s a beautiful ring, but I can see how you wouldn’t be able to wear it to work. My sister is an OT, and she has a plain band that she wears on most days.
Post # 13
Just popping in to say that my ring is a 7 mm stone with a halo, and I wear gloves for hours a day. I haven’t had any problems. I know many other women who work in nearby labs who also have large-ish solitaires and have no issues with gloves. I can understand feeling like a ring isn’t your style, but the glove thing is really a non-issue.
Your rings are gorgeous, I would try to give them a shot in let them grow on you.
Post # 14
Oh my gosh. Those rings are gorgeous!
If I were you, here is what I would do. I would reset those beautiful stones in the following manner:
Center diamond, flanked on either side by the largest diamond from each side of the enhancer, with one of the smallest diamonds on either side of those.
Then I would have the four medium-sized diamonds from the enhancer set in the middle of a half-eternity style wedding band, with the other two smallest diamonds from the enhancer on either end of them. (You and the jeweler may find that another combination works better, but that’s just a starting point as a suggestion for how to make these stunning diamonds look different in both an e-ring and wedding band. Also, have them reset in the metal of your choice, whether that is platinum, white gold, yellow gold, or even rose gold! 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I think it’s a beautiful set but I understand your hesitation about wearing it to work. I wear gloves everyday for work too and I got a smaller, lower set, e-ring for this reason. I wanted to be able to wear my ring every day.
I know people who try to make it work and have decent sucess – a coworker of mine had a near 1 CT marquis cut and managed to wear gloves without ripping them most of the time (though I would honestly estimate she rips 1 pair of gloves a day on her ring).
I like the idea of a band or a stand in ring for work. A simple gold band is classic and you could even sometimes just wear that with the e-ring too. It gives you a lot of different options to work with in that regard. Or get yourself something completley different as a stand in, I have a CZ band from berricle as a stand for when I really worry about something happening to my e-ring in and I love it.
Post # 16
@Taeyers: My ring is just over 8 mm and it sticks up in this setting A LOT! I guess I should get it out again and perhaps try it in a larger size of gloves (at the places where I have done fieldworks, they have mostly size medium gloves and my hands fit perfectly in those without an additional diamond sticking up.