- 5 years ago
My nephew is 3 (he’ll be 4 by my wedding) and my sister is super protective of him
He’s is very sensitive to all types of sounds, and people, and is incredibly bratty/throws hysterical temper tantrums almost constantly. (My sister kind of just gives-in whenever..) He’s really one of the worst behaved kids I’ve ever seen in my entire life.
We’re having an adult-only wedding, but my sister and BIL would be travelling, so OF COURSE my nephew is invited.
he’s going to melt down/cry/throw a tantrum when he has to sit during the ceremony, and because there will be people around him that he doesn’t know.
he’s going to FREAK OUT/scream/cry during the recessional song because the first note is a drum beat, and that will scare him. And then the rest of the night he’ll be crying/screaming because music will be playing for people to dance to.
I’m worried that just all night long, my BIL is going to have to take somewhere and stay with him and try to get him to sleep or something and he’ll miss out on all the fun, and then he and my sister will be fighting all night because of it…
I really wanted this wedding to be a celebration of everyone’s relationships, and for all couples to be able to take a night off, have a good time and reconnect with one another.
My nephew could stay at home, with my BIL’s mother (so, the grandmother) but I don’t know if my sister would be ok with that.
Sigh. I feel like an ass for saying all of this.
But really, I just don’t want to hear SHRIEKING and SCREAMING and SOBBING all night long on my wedding night… :
I was wondering if I should mention this to my sister at all, just the parts about my nephew being sensitive to new people, and to music.
I’ve briefly mentioned this to my sister before, asking her how she thinks he will do, to which she responds: “Oh he’ll be fine. He’ll be 4 years old by then.” … Um. So what? Just because he’s a year older doesn’t mean anything…
Bah. I just don’t know what to do. Any suggestions?