(Closed) I don’t really want the wedding to come.

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Not weird at all. I go back and forth between 1) feeling like the whole thing is a hassle and I just want to be married TODAY and 2) feeling like this is the only time i’ll ever get to do this and i should soak up every ounce of wedding-ness. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I totally know what you mean…I have all these ideas I want to put into place for my wedding, except if I do them all, it’ll be a huge mish mosh of different themes, feels, etc. I feel like once we get married, that’s it…I never get to go back and do a do-over….which is contributing to my stress level, because then I feel like everything has to be perfect. Sigh…

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) completely totally normal.  Everything that you are speaking of and going through is completely totally normal.  Perhaps you should sit down with a blank sheet of paper and close your eyes.  Then just think of what you want to feel your wedding day, what you would like to see.  Open them and write them down.  Reevaluate every few days to ensure that what you are booking and the things that you are creating is exactly what is written on that sheet of paper.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I feel the same way and I just got engaged! Its such a beautiful feeling of being the Bride!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was just thinking about this last night!  I’ve put so much thought into my wedding and have been dreaming about it for years – I’m nervous how I’m going to feel once it’s something to remember instead of something to anticipate!  I’m trying my best to focus on the marriage that will be so I don’t lose focus of what that day is really about!  It’s so hard though when everyone around you wants to focus on the wedding day too 😀

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

There are so many other events in your life that will be amazing!  Take some time to think of what you’re looking forward to, that promotion at work, buying that house, throwing that party, attending that opera, etc.  Life is what you make of it and if you love the idea of throwing parties, throw them!  Weddings should not be the only outlet for creativity.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I go back and forth between wanting to be married already! and realizing that this time is very special and I should enjoy it. I guess we all get our 15 minutes then it’s someone else’s turn..

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

It’s understandable, but once it’s over, there are definitely a mix of emotions – everyone handles them different, but I was SO happy and still am =)  Plus, after that, you can start planning more celebrations…for friends, family, and then maybe some fab vow renewal and anniversary parties =)

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

There can always be classy themed cocktail parties in your future 🙂

Seriously, entertaining. Plan nice parties at your home. It’s a great thing to look forward to and people will love you for it because they’re all too lazy to host. I’m so excited to get married and receive all the beautiful dishes and forks and shiny wine chillers that I can’t wait to plan my first party!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I feel the same way!!!!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

🙁 I’m so sad now that it’s over. I never really believed in post wedding depression, but it exists. You just have to keep busy. It’s kind of a huge buildup for something ends rather quickly.

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