(Closed) I don’t think he’s saving for a ring :-/

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Suit yourselves. I would never in a million years suggest how, nor when he should buy me something no matter what on earth it is. Gifts are gifts, my ring was the greatest gift I ever got.

Post # 18
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

As hard as it is, I think you should relax and not say anything right now. Maybe he has a plan for the holidays? If you aren’t engaged by March, I would definitely say something.

Post # 19
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Another vote for keeping quiet. 


I do understand the frustration however.

Post # 20
1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had to say something because I’m in my 40’s now…and when we met I told him that after 2 years we need to “piss or get off the pot.”

I brought the subject up on our 2 year anniversary just to let him know that i was serious and wasn’t going to let things slide.


I agree with PP, if it bothers you, you need to say something. Men aren;’t great with hints.

Post # 21
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldnt stay quiet! If he doesnt want to look at the list, save money and marry you…you shouldnt wait around! I have a friend going through something similar…and it makes her so sad all the time and it breaks my heart. He obviously doesnt plan to marry her anytime soon and she doesnt want to waste her time but he keeps her hanging…I just wish she would stand up and give him an ultmatem.


I donno…I am not saying your situation is the same but I am saying look deep down within yourself..if you dont care about waiting then wait…if u care, bring it up. 🙂 its okay to, ur only being fair to urself!

Post # 22
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Guys are very sneaky. I had no idea my fi was saving and led me to believe it was something else entirely. So he might be telling a you a little lie about using the tax return for his dad’s boat. I wouldn’t think a guy would just go out and say that he’s using it to buy a ring. Then there wouldn’t be a surprise. I did aways joke that he could never buy a big tv until I got my ring but if its really bothering you then mention it to him. Ask about if he saw the rings you sent him yet. Just keep it simple and casual.

I actually sent my fi pictures as well and mentioned it jokingly every now and then. We even looked at rings online and to a store once which was a secret plot to get my ring size. The ring he bought me, he sent me a picture of it then lied about how much it costs so I would think it was out of his price range. Honestly, the first thing that popped into my mind when he proposed was “You’re not suppose to be doing this” and “That’s that ring you lied about”. Overall, you are the judge of the situation.


Post # 23
1188 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

How do you know for sure if he’s saving or if he has a savings account? Do you have joint accounts? If not, I wouldn’t say a word until March.

Post # 24
5 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

Dont worry i felt the exact same way, after 5 years i was beyond ready to be engaged. He would spend money on the most ridiculous things and I never even expected to get engaged anytime soon because I knew he didnt have the money for a ring but these guys can be sneakier than we think! And he had a ring without me even knowing.

Post # 25
273 posts
Helper bee

You are 23 years old and have been dating him a bit over a year, RELAX!!!!

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