(Closed) I don’t think I can do this anymore!

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I feel your pain!  Kayla spit up a TON of blood two night in a row, then when I pumped blood was squirting out, so I took a break from feeding from that side over a weekend.  She is 6 months now and I managed to get through it somehow! (I’m stubborn!)  But I just wanted you to know I wanted to give up for weeks and I look at you as a very strong woman for doing what you needed to do for your sanity! 🙂  So glad you two are doing well!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so sorry, I’m not a mom. I wish you luck with your problem. But…I had to write to say…that little face is so precious. So adorable. I just want one so bad. I wanted to say congrats on your new little family. Oh, I love him!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I managed to breast feed for 7 weeks- but hated EVERY minute of it- so I totally get it.  You should not feel bad for formula feeding.  If you are happy then your baby will be happy.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Don’t get down on yourself for making the right decision for you and your baby.  The answer to breast or formula feed is different for each mom and baby and no one answer is wrong. 

I love Rose’s sweet cheeks by the way.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I felt the same way at about the same time as you. I wanted to cry everytime I had to feed him and I completely respect that you would want to stop!

For what it’s worth, I have managed to keep it up although I still don’t love it. Some things that helped are putting breast milk on the nipple and letting it air dry, lanolin creme, and making sure the latch is big. The other thing that helped was pumping for a few days on one side to let the skin recover. When the milk really starts coming in that helps too. Eventually the skin toughens up a bit but it’s still doesn’t feel completely pain free. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

You have to do what makes you and baby happy. Stressing will only stress her out, and lead to a bad situation. Do what you have to do!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Don’t feel bad! You tried!!!!! Sounds like you made the right decision for you and your baby!!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ok first of all this is the first picture I have seen of her and she is just perfect! Second, I’m not a mom, but try not to feel like a failure – because you aren’t one. It sounds like you did the best you could to try to breastfeed your daughter and it just wasn’t right for you. And that’s okay. It is important that you are happy and healthy in order to best care for your daughter and it sounds like you wouldn’t have been happy if you continued breastfeeding…there is nothing wrong with that!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I didn’t give up early but I don’t blame you in the least. Nobody is told the truth about how difficult it is to breastfeed. It’s supposed to come naturally but it does not. At all.  And no one is prepared for the time investment.  You are feeding around the clock for at least six weeks before it gets easier. But not for the fact that I spend two weeks with a lactation consultant right after my son was born, I would have given up.

My son was not latching on properly and every single feeding (like 6-7 times a day) I had to fill a plastic bottle with formula, hang it around my neck and tape these tiny little tubes to my nipples (while he was screaming) and formula would flow while he was getting breast milk at the same time.  I had to do this for over a week. It was a total nightmare to this day I don’t know how I got through it.

But do not feel guilty and do not feel like a failure.  You are doing what is best for you and the baby.  Plenty of my friends did not breastfeed and their kids turned out just fine: smart and healthy:)

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I quit after 2-ish weeks, pumped for a few days, and then went promptly to formula full time.  I still feel guilty sometimes, but the good news is that time heals all.  I feel a lot less guilty, a lot less often these days.

Sweet little Rose is going to be much happier and much healthier if her mommy is happy and healthy.  You did a great job this last week, and I know you tried your hardest, but it’s ok to admit when it gets to be too much.  Plus, there are so many great things about formula feeding!  For one, she’ll probably sleep longer and go longer between feedings at an earlier age.  I think Addie went to a four hour feeding schedule almost immediately after switching to formula.  Extra sleep makes all the difference!  Not only that, but you can share the bonding time (and nighttime responsibilities) with your husband.  You can have more free time and pass Rose off to your husband if it gets too overwhelming without worrying about her getting hungry again in an hour or two.  Plus you don’t have to worry about leaking breasts, pumping if you’re away from her too long, cracked/bleeding nipples, complications like clogged ducts and mastitis, etc…  Formula feeding is not all bad!  There’s a lot of pluses to it.

Hugs, momma.  You’ll get through this.  In the end, you have to make the decision that is right for you and your family.  Formula feeding does not mean you failed and it does not make you a bad mommy.  

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Rose looks so sweet.  These first few weeks are tough but I look at how big my little girl is now (at 9 weeks) and already miss her tiny little spunk.  If you’re done with breastfeeding you could always pump for a bit and make a little freezer stash before your supply goes away to mix in with the formula.  But don’t feel like a failure, you’re raising a beautiful little girl.  

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@PutABirdOnIt: You taped tubes to your nipples every time you had to feed him!? That’s insane! Do people do that often?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Its okay that you decided to stop! It will be better bonding time if you are not in pain. Just lovingly hold him while feeding time is happening (with a bottle.) I know it seems like you just gave up, but IMO all in all you just did what was best in your situation! I didnt breast feed long either. My son didnt latch on no matter what or how many specialists we saw. So feedings took forever it felt like because I was pumping and pumping and then feeding etc. But apparently my milk didnt have enough calories (didnt know that could happen) and he wasnt gaining enough weight so his pediatricion put him on formula and everyones lives got a lot easier from their. I know some are against formula but it all has to meet certain healthy guidlines for baby!! good for you!! but I know that can be a tough start to motherhood. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Happy mom = Happy Baby!  You did what’s best for you and your family!  Your baby is so precious!

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