(Closed) I don't think I can ever speak to my MOH again. Advice please.

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
1262 posts
Bumble bee

I’m so sorry for your loss…I’m going to agree with other bees…move forward. Give Future Sister-In-Law the dress and if she has the nerve to ask about it, reimburse her.

Post # 18
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am so very sorry for your loss.  My mother was in hospice and passed away in August. I understand how truly difficult that was for your family and how difficult it must still be.

i would be done with that friend.  I would mail her a check for the value of the dress, no note, no explanation…just maybe on the note line in the check put “reimbursement for Maid/Matron of Honor dress”. And call it a day. If she contacts you, simply say you have made other arrangements for your special day and leave it at that.  I’m sorry that on top of your lo you have to deal with a crappy human being. 

Post # 20
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@danisalci13:  Why in the world would you have to contact her? Someone who can’t handle being your friend during hard times doesn’t deserve to be around for the good times. If the dress fits your fsil send ex moh a check, if not send her the dress and be done with it. I’m sorry for your loss, you must be completely devastated. You sound like you’re a very good friend and I hope you surround yourself with people who are just as caring.

Post # 22
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I am so sorry about your loss and you are put in this horrible situation! I cannot believe that your Maid/Matron of Honor has been acting this way!

There really is no excuse that a real friend would not even show up to your brothers services! I cannot believe it!! She does not sound like a good friend at all!! 

The right thing to do in this situation would be to call her and try to tell her your feelings.  But if I were in your shoes I probably wouldn’t even give her the time of day.

You know yourself best, and you know your Maid/Matron of Honor better than any of us do, so whatever your choice is, remember that its the best for you and your situation, as I can’t tell you what your choices should be since I am not in your shoes. Best wishes to you and keep us all updated please! 

Post # 23
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@danisalci13:  thats horrible im sorry for your lost. Reading your post was heart wrenching. I cant believe a close friend like that couldn’t  be there for you shes obviously not a true friend. I wouldnt have her in your wedding, friends are suppose to be there through the good times and bad times.  The fact her brother sent his condolences and not her is disgraceful. I would just post her out a cheque for the dress and give it to your other bm that way she has no excuse to call you or slag you off to people saying you took her money. Plus its less drama for you. Some horrible people in the world. Keep smiling I know its hard but sometimes the ones you think will be there arent and the ones you didnt expect to be are. Xx

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