Post # 32
If he agreed to raise your children Catholic, then, first off, don’t lose hope – it sounds like he understands how important this is to you, and he may agree to the church wedding.
If he is adamant about not having a church wedding, see if he would compromise by having a convalidation (ideally, ASAP after the wedding). You will be “in good standing” and free to receive communion if the marriage is convalidated.
You might even ask if he would consider having a tiny marriage ceremony with just you two, the priest, and your two witnesses (so that the actual legal wedding is a Church wedding) but then doing your big family-and-friends celebration elsewhere? Not an ideal option, necessarily, but you could consider it.
Post # 33
@greenviolets: Yeah I didn’t say the person had to be Catholic to marry in a CC, but yeah didn’t do my research before I posted about the name of the church.
Post # 34
There are sooooo many options out there and she’s right.. the biggest hurdle is your Fiance agreeing to raise the kiddo’s catholic! Good luck! I’m sure everything will work out fine 😀
Post # 35
@KCKnd2: I am with you– I was raised in conservative dioceses. My parents (dad is protestant) could have had a full mass in Scranton, but the priest encouraged them not to because their first act as a married couple would be separate. I am going through the pre-cana process in Arlington and DC (different dioceses) and both would have been fine doing a full mass for a mixed couple.
Post # 36
My fiance’ is Episcopalian, I’m a (confirmed) Catholic. We are having a full Mass. He will receive a blessing, I will take Communion. He is perfectly OK with it. My Mom’s side of the family is the Catholic side, so we will take Communion, and his side can also receive a blessing as he will. Also, we are doing our pre-cana as a series of meetings with one of the husband/wife teams that leads Engaged Encounter in our parish rather than attending for a weekend due to our schedules. We are also “older” than most couples who marry here, so our priest has been very relaxed and accomodating. I’m 33, will be 34 and he will be 30 when we are married in January. I was concerned after talking with a few people who were married in other parishes/cities but we have not had any issues with this at all.
Oh, and we also (obviously) had the whole “raising kids Catholic”, etc. talk and that is already agreed on. Not that I had any concerns, but A. has been extremely supportive/relaxed/willing to do whatever is necessary for us to have the Catholic wedding that I wanted 🙂