(Closed) I don’t think I have any right to be upset….but I am

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hmm…I’m not sure how flying domestic is less expensive than flying to Jamaica.

The thing is, weddings are expensive to go to. Flights, cabs to and from hotels, GIFTS, time away from work possibly? Food, drinks, possibly updating passports? You never know.

It was incredibly generous of you to offer to cover the hotel costs for these guests but for their own reasons, they can’t make it.

They haven’t replied yet to your friends party, right? So no need to stress. And if they do say yes, they might be all bunking together or staying at someone’s house.

Don’t let it get to you…not worth the stress.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wow, you are really generous to offer to cover their hotel costs!  I can kind of see both sides.  Don’t get too upset, though.  Right now, it’s only an “If” situation.  No sense in worrying about it until it’s something that’s already happening. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Coloradolov:Honestly, if I were in your position, I would feel a little sour about it too. It’s only natural.

Just keep thinking of the sunny, happy island 🙂

Post # 7
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1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I know it’s difficult, but I would try not to stress about it until it happens. No use getting upset over something that hasn’t even happened, right?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Coloradolov: I woudl feel the same way.  It’s up to them what they want to do with their money and you definately respect that, but it doesn’t take a way the hurt that IF they go to a party instead of your own wedding when they say they can’t afford to do so.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I totally understand how you are feeling right now.  I am very happy about my decision to have a destination wedding and would not change a thing. We gave our friends plenty of notice and sent save the dates 11 months in advance . I’ve also sent our wedding website with travel material and other fun emails in the months leading up to now.

Well a month ago, my Fiance and I get an email from our group of friends about a ski trip that’s been planned for March. I’m like WTF!!!! Now, we’re working professionals, but we are not rich, so we can’t save for and actually take two trips within months of each other.  I’m wondering if this ski trip is in lieu of having to spend “more” money to go to Jamaica??? I’m a little disturbed, but I haven’t said anything and probably won’t. You can’t tell anyone what to do with their money. Plus I knew that with having a destination wedding, a lot of people would not be able to come. But to me the ski trip being planned just makes me feel a little sad. Our formal invitations just went out, so we’ll see who all comes to the wedding and who goes on the ski trip. Even if no one shows up, I’m still going to have the time of my life!!!!

Glad you started this thread! I hope you feel better soon.

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