- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
This sounds tricky, and not something the beehive can necessarily handle. In my opinion, I think you need to continue with counseling and determine if this is something that A. can be worked out, or B. you WANT to work out. Infedility is definitely not something that comes lightly.
Life is what you make it !
First, it’s not fun to go through, but I think you need therapy, not for your marriage, for you ! Having no family is sad in itself and very hard to deal with and you are very young. You don’t have friends to fall on, count on, back you, etc., you are primarily living for him and the marriage. I could see where as feeling so alone in the world would make it very difficult not to latch onto someone, anyone, who in a moment made you feel loved. But to cheat once is one thing, to cheat 5 times, well that is not about validation, no one in love cheats to validate anything, they cheat because they are not happy, attempting to punish the person they are cheating on or is using it to escape reality.
Look, getting a divorce is simple, file, pack and leave, it ‘s less time consuming and cost less than the wedding did. Its time for you to take responsibility of your own life and actions. Good luck with everything and focus on your inner strength to become a better person knowing your are doing the right thing by yourself and him by walking away from the failure. 🙂 Stay strong !!!
I’m so not qualified to give advice in a situation like this, so feel free to disregard anything I say that you don’t like, etc.
I think that if counseling helped you before the wedding, it might be worth another try now.
I also wouldn’t worry about who hates you or doesn’t hate you- it’s your life. I think you need to figure out what’s best for you- whether that means staying and making it work or leaving and rebuilding your life. Either way you’ll be ok.
People hate on others people no matter what.. but at this point you need to do whats best for you.. if you feel that you need to be out of the relationship then thats what you need to do.. for you!!
Yikes. Follow your heart. If you are unhappy and it just isnt working then it may be time to bite the bullet and make a change in your life. You may lose some friends, but you may also meet an entire world of people who you didnt know existed before. Good luck, and remember, you only get one life, and its not worth it if you both are unhappy (hugs)
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Oh honey. I am so sorry to hear this.
But you are smart, GORGEOUS and such a kind person. You deserve to be treated that way.
I wouldn’t worry about people hating you. In the end you need to do what’s best for you. Take some time and think about what you really want. Maybe try counseling again. You say everything’s bad again….does that mean you’re cheating again? Or that you’re not feeling loved again?
I’d say it is probably time to separate. Some things just aren’t meant to be. I commend you for coming clean.
I’m so, so sorry. I don’t have any advice for you. I wish I did. I think PPs have said it all. PM me anytime. (((HUGS)))
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