Well back about 2 years ago my aunt was causing some problems with me. She is a year older than me and has always been really jealous of me. So she runs her mouth about anything and everything she can think of, she’s a habitual liar and causes drama wherever she goes. So a couple of years ago I was in an accident, it was a bad accident and while fi and I were in the hospital she decided to call my daughters father and tell him all about it. Even though my daughter wasn’t in the car and the accident had nothing to do with him. But she thought it was necessary to tell him about the accident and he starts calling my fi’s phone while we’re in the hospital. He texted 42 times and called about 15 times threatening and cussing and all in the four hours we were in.
So I text my Aunt telling her to keep out of my business, to stop running her mouth and such. It wasn’t the nicest message but I was a mess after the accident and that was the last thing I needed. Well the problem is that fi’s mom has practically the same number as my aunt, the last digit is the only difference and I was so upset I sent it to his mom by mistake. When she wrote back I realized and apologized and explained what happened.
Then a few days later my Aunt is back to her games and upset about my angry text to her that she decides to call my daughters dad telling all these lies. They both repeatedly call the cops trying to get me for theft drugs violence, anything they could think of. The cops came and raided my house saying we had weapons, all in front of my 2 year old child. They took my fi to jail but he was immediately released and all charges dropped because they were false alligations. Well of course I’m fuming again about the drama she caused so I texted her again and sure enough the even nastier text went to fi’s mom. I had to explain again the mistake and apologize over and over.
So not my daughters dad nor my aunt know where I live. I had to move away because they were having the cops harrass us weekly pretty much, and because my daughters dad is in the military the cops would often originally believe him until they saw I was doing nothing wrong.
Well that all smoothed out but that with the fact that my family is full of drug addicts and alcoholics, and my mom struggled my whole childhood trying to take care of me and my brothers because my father was a dead beat, I can tell they look down on that. With comments about the wedding especially. On my birthday we had a sit down and they offered to pay for the honeymoon (which was very nice) only after lecturing about the expenses of a wedding. Then they make comments about “Well how are you going to afford that?” or “Well will your mom really be able to pay for that?” etc etc.
With fi and I, we balance eachother out well. He comes from a strict over bearing family, I come from a party family. I’m the uptight person and he’s the party animal. But together we even eachother out. He’s stopped the partying and I’ve learned to relax a little and feel a lot less stressful.
He and his parents didn’t have much of a relationship when we met. He resented their uptight ways. But he’s learned through being with me that they were that way because they wanted the best for him. I’ve spent many many nights explaining to him how lucky he was to have parents who cared enough to be strict and he’s been building his relationship with his parents since.
He stopped drinking on his own, because he saw it effecting the relationship. He stopped doing drugs on his own because he saw it effecting our lives. I never asked him to but he did it for me he says and he’s happy with his decision. When given the opportunities he doesn’t want to do those things any more, he sees now after being off it for so long the risk and the troubles that come with it and like me sees that it’s just not worth it.
We make eachother better but his family, although I believe they see this, I think they still don’t like me, that they think he can do better.