(Closed) "I don't think you'll ever lose weight!"

posted 6 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Ryansgirl:  Have you tried myfitnesspal.com? it’s free and there’s loads of info and support. It’s made me really accountable and along with a popular shake diet plan I’ve lost 20lbs so far πŸ™‚

 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Ryansgirl:  I think she was rude for saying something like that; maybe it just came out wrong?  Silent revenge is best!  Don’t even tell her what you’re doing!

Do you know the Paleo diet?  It’s mostly meats, nuts, veggies, fruit – basically no sugar, processed foods, bread, pasta, alcohol.  I personally don’t think it’s all about counting calories.  The calories have to be quality.  Otherwise, fifteen of those 100 calorie packs will get you at a target caloric range!

I think if you ate any of those menus, started walking and doing body resistance things (pushups, squats, situps, tricep dips), you will see progress.

nomnompaleo.com (gives several sets of 30 day menus!)

everydaypaleo.com

paleomg.com

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Like CurlyWurly said — check out myfitnesspal.com, and then go to the forums and join a group called Eat, Train, Progress. Read the stickies and you’ll get some great information about the best way to go about fat loss.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m sorry that you’re feeling unhappy about your appearance, but I’m sure your friend didn’t mean to be rude. It sounds like you sort of set the stage for that kind of idea or comment, and she just screwed up by actually saying it out loud. If someone told me that her wedding “wasn’t even enough motivation to get me to lose weight”, I would assume this person was intentionally trying to tell me that weight loss may never happen without some huge overhaul. It’s nothing personal, that’s just exactly the idea I would get from that comment.

I don’t think she meant to be insulting or hurtful, or that she even truly believes that comment, I just think she awkwardly responded to your statement without realizing how it would sound. I hope you won’t let this affect your relationship with her if she has never been intentionally hurtful in the past.

ETA: I don’t believe you won’t lose weight. With wedding stress, you’d have to work more uphill than usual to be successful, and asking for advice is a great step. I bet you’ll feel much less sensitive about this comment when you start to see yourself succeeding. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Ryansgirl: First off, that’s so bitchy–drop that girl.

I just started Weight Watchers online and am loving it so far. It’s very easy to use and I haven’t been hungry and have been eating, but I’ve lost over 7lbs since starting less than a week ago.

There’s another thread here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/weight-watchers-17 full of WW peeps.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Ryansgirl: That was a very thoughtless comment she made. I’m sorry you had to hear that! I think with the right motivation, you can definitely lose weight! I have to cast my vote for myfitnesspal as well, it is a great site πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Ryansgirl:  Ugh, that would sting! Hopefully she didn’t mean it quite the way it came out.

I think that the biggest thing is to realize that losing weight permanently is a lifestyle change… it’s not about the latest fad low carb (or whatever) diet… it’s about eating less and moving more. Diets are temporary and unsustainable. If you deprive yourself of something, you will want it even more. It’s all about moderation.

If your weight gain is recent (or semi recent), figure out what got you to where you are today, and work backwards. I gained around 20 lbs. since I started dating my SO 2 years ago. Since we got together, I ate out more, my alcohol consumption increased (sweet mixed drinks etc.), and I stopped walking to work (30 min per day of walking) because he gives me rides.

We decided we both need to lose some weight so we are eating out less (twice a week in general vs. when we used to more often), restricting drinks to the weekends (and I usually only have one drink per night if that), and I am walking 30 minutes a day, usually during my lunch hour (there’s a mall right by my office). Little changes like these are already paying off for me.

We’ve also started going to the gym at least twice a week. I enjoy lifting weights, and I do a lot of walking and jumping rope. I will never be a runner so I have finally given up on that lark vs. starting with the best of intentions and getting frustrated. In the summer we swim. It’s all about finding something you don’t despise.

Other little changes like not finishing everything on my plate and taking the stairs and/or doing jumping jacks before getting into the shower and standing on the Bosu ball in my living room while watching TV all help.

It helps to plan your meals for the week so you make it easy on yourself, and ordering a pizza is less tempting.

Start with a bunch of little changes and gradually they’ll become habits. I used to be a very much all or nothing type person with diet/exercise… and it wouldn’t last.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@canarydiamond:  <— great advice!

 

This is going to be long… sorry in advance!  I hope there are at least a few things you can take away from it and make it work for you πŸ™‚ 

Fitness Advice  (not weight loss advice, because skinny does NOT equal healthy!)

 Eating habits:

DRINK WATER!  Eliminate juices, soft drinks, energy drinks, full fat lattes, etc.  Eat your calories, don’t drink them! 

-I’m not saying to skip your morning juice or milk, but read the serving sizes on the juice container… many of them have so much sugar.  Drink coffee black, or with skim milk instead of cream.  Small changes add up!

 EAT CLEAN!  Avoid processed foods.  Focus on fresh fruits and veggies.  Increase lean protein.  Swap out refined carbs like white bread/rice/pasta for a whole grain variety.  Don’t eat packaged what you can prepare fresh.  Reduce or eliminate all processed sugars.  If you want something sweet, have a piece of fruit.  If you are chocoholic, that’s ok, but opt for a small piece of dark chocolate to satisfy the craving.

 Snack often, but eat smaller meals.  Add some kind of protein to every snack and meal.  Like oatmeal every morning?  Get the plain oats and use almond milk, cinnamon, and honey for a naturally fulfilling breakfast.  Pair a piece of fruit with some yogurt or nuts.  Dip veggies in hummus or have a string cheese with some whole grain crackers.

-I don’t think people need to completely cut out carbs, vegetables are carbs after all!  Carbs are also necessary for energy.

 

Exercise habits: 

WEIGHTS!!!  Lift them.  Lift heavy ones.  Women are physiologically unlikely to “bulk” up by lifting heavy weights.  More weights = more muscle mass.  More muscle mass = higher burning BMR.  Aim for 2-4 weight sessions a week.  You can do upper one day, lower the next, or you can do a whole-body workout with rest days or cardio days in between.  

Cardio will help melt the fat off those newly toned muscles.  This can be power walking (not taking a stroll through the park, but work yourself to breathlessness), running, elliptical, cycling, etc.  Take a spin class, step class, zumba, whatever gets you moving and your heart rate elevated.  Swimming is an awesome alternative for those with joint problems.

 Interval training is also helpful because you work VERY INTENSELY in bursts, with active recovery in between intense exercises.  This allows your heart rate to increase rapidly, but you never fully recover back down to a resting heart rate.  By doing things in bursts (or intervals!) you can keep your heart rate higher for longer.

 

Other tips: 

Get a workout buddy to keep you accountable and motivated.  Hire a trainer, join a gym, sign up for a class.

Check out MyFitnessPal- it’s free!  You can enter in certain information and you get a daily calorie goal.  Remember to input your exercise as well, since it will adjust your daily goal based on activity. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Ryansgirl:  Umm..rude!  If you were happy with yourself, I’d recommend that you tell her to kiss it!  But if you are really wanting to make some changes, then let her words be your motivation – in a healthy way.  Just make sure that as you move forward, you’re doing it for you and no one else, otherwise her words may ring true on down the line :o)  I was a personal trainer for nearly 3 years and I saw people fail at losing weight all the time because they weren’t truly doing it for themselves.

I don’t know if you’re a soda drinker, but if so, cutting sodas can seriously drop 10 pounds off of you in less than a month…happened to me!  Another thing that I’ve found that works is to cut anything white out of your diet…white bread, white sugar, etc.  And not sure if you have a gym membership, but my gym has some great classes that target different areas of the body (or all areas…whew those kick my booty!) but I’ve found that they’re a great way to get a good workout in without spending your whole evening in the gym, plus the added pressure to keep up since there are others in the class helps push me harder than DVD’s or other living room workout plans.  Good luck to you!  You can do it :o)

Post # 12
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Newbee

i would definitely reccommend sparkpeople.com!!!!!!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@DaneLady:  

Fitness Advice  (not weight loss advice, because skinny does NOT equal healthy!)

+1

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Another +1 for myfitnesspal.com.

I’m on a low-carb diet to cut out sugars and wheat and it really helps me keep track of everything I’m eating in grams. It helps to get a visual.

It also becomes kind of like a game. If you plug in exercise it’ll tell you how many calories you earned back or how many calories you have left for the day. It definitely puts into perspective how many calories are in certain foods.

You can definitely do it, just make sure you go in with a mindset of it being a lifestyle change or something long term because if you go back to eating like you used to, it’ll all come back! 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

My wedding was almost a year ago. I gained weight up to the wedding and fifteen lbs after the wedding. Count Em. FIFTEEN! That makes for a total of a 55 lb weight loss I wanna do. 

Im more motivated then ever. You don’t have to have an event to lose weight for. Wanting to lose weight comes from within. So far, I’m 16 lbs into my journey And am going strong. I’m using myfitnesspal and running every day πŸ™‚ PM me if you wanna be MFP friends!

Post # 16
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5107 posts
Bee Keeper

My wedding was almost a year ago. I gained weight up to the wedding and fifteen lbs after the wedding. Count Em. FIFTEEN! That makes for a total of a 55 lb weight loss I wanna do. 

Im more motivated then ever. You don’t have to have an event to lose weight for. Wanting to lose weight comes from within. So far, I’m 16 lbs into my journey And am going strong. I’m using myfitnesspal and running every day πŸ™‚ PM me if you wanna be MFP friends!

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