- Badass Bride
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I know this might upset some people, but while I do get along with my STB (stepsons to be), I’m not too impressed by them. They only call their dad if they want him to pay for something (and we don’t have much money), both have toyed with dropping out of high school, neither of them have ever worked (they are 17 and 18), and the older one is so self-obsessed it borders on parody.
Fiance has chosen them as his best men, and while I think this is a great way to incorporate them into the wedding, I don’t trust them with anything important. My mom has already agreed to have them stay with her during the wedding week because she knows they drive me crazy and doesn’t want me to have unnecessary stress around that time, and she is going to take care of the rings.
Here’s the thing – we’re planning to do an iPod wedding and I was thinking of having a hotel staff member man it since I don’t want a guest to do it, as they won’t be able to enjoy themselves. We’re saving so much already that adding a bit to the budget won’t hurt us. Fiance keeps suggesting that one or both of the STB do it, but I keep vetoing it, saying they won’t be able to have fun or mingle with my older cousins (both of which are true). He knows I don’t think much of them not having realistic life goals and only calling him to ask for money or favors, so I have a feeling this will come to a head and he’ll get annoyed with me not trusting them with anything important.
I wonder if there’s anything small they can be in charge of – maybe watching over the gift table – that doesn’t give them too much responsibility. I don’t trust these kids, and if you knew them, you wouldn’t either, but I don’t want to cause hurt feelings. Some of you might think “get over yourself”, but anyone who has dealt with selfish stepkids – or any kids/adults for that matter – will know where I’m coming from.
Any thoughts (besides “you suck!”) welcome!