(Closed) I don't understand upgrading!

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

i didn’t upgrade and can’t imagine doing so since the new one wouldn’t be the one he proposed with…..however, i picked out my own ring and so do other brides, so maybe it might not be as sentimental that way.  idk, to each her own

Post # 4
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I feel like you do as well. I did NOT research settings, stones and whatnot before getting my ring. I only knew I did NOT want a traditional diamond ring. I wanted something different that represented us. I knew that I had always loved a square halo, but had given up on it & opened my mind when I decided that my ring was going to be unique. What I got was my dream setting with FI’s birthstone & month he proposed as my center stone with my birthstone & our wedding month in the halo/band. Even though it wasn’t a super laborioius process to choose the ring, I still love my ring to pieces. The most I see myself doing at this point is adding bands for anniversaries down the road. I’m very sentimental.


I hope I didn’t ramble. Here’s a pic of my e-ring! ๐Ÿ™‚


Oh, also, we kinda picked it out together. We saw it while perusing & knew it was the one.

Post # 7
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I can see both sides of it. I personally feel like you. My ring was a gift picked out by my awesome husband. He put lots of thought into it and I love it. Even if we could easily afford to upgrade my stone or whole ring in the future, I don’t think I would because it would be getting rid of a gift. And it would remind me specifically of the day he gave it to me. 

But I think some people just don’t really see it as a gift, they see it as like, just the piece of jewelry they get to wear bc they are married. And it doesn’t matter what they wear as long as it is something— so they want the biggest thing they can afford ? 

I dunno. lol

Post # 8
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

It all depends on the philosophy you had going in. We wanted a forever setting, because traditionally it’s the circle of gold that was the meaningful part, so we took a lot of time and spent literally all the $$$ on that. We were going to add a stone, but in the end we decided to save the money and keep the jewelry store CZ in there for now. Since it was always meant to be temporary, I don’t think either of us will mind at all when we switch it out for something better. I might keep it, but I sure don’t love it enough not to change it to something better!

Post # 11
2050 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I upgraded today, and this is the second time.  Personally, it isn’t a big deal to me.  I understand the sentimental value of a ring and what it stands for, but to be honest, Fiance and I don’t mind upgrading to something else if I want a change.  I’m sorta spur of the moment and like changing material things.  If we can afford it, why not? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
2759 posts
Sugar bee

My good friend upgraded on her 5-year wedding anniversary. She and her husband were very limited on a budget when he proposed, so her original stone was fairly small. Her husband always wanted to get her something larger/nicer, so they picked out a new ring with a larger center stone and more TCW than her original e-ring which he gave her for their 5-year.

I thought it was sweet.

Post # 13
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had a profound attachment to our first house, but when we were able to buy a bigger more fabulous house I quickly got over the sentimental feelings of our first house.

I imagine the same could be said for rings.  Though I do have some attachment to my diamond, I sure wouldn’t kick him out if bed for upgrading it!!





Post # 14
9648 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I can’t imagine upgrading, I chose the ring I loved, and couldn’t imagine upgrading it ever, even for a bigger stone. It is perfect the way it is ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
9198 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Mine’s a family heirloom so it’s very special and I won’t upgrade.  Plus, it’s basically the perfect size (0.7 carat center stone) for my active non-blingy lifestyle.  I think some women view an upgrade as a chance to get a new sparkly that’s another reminder of how much their hubby loves them, and that’s totally cool too.

Post # 16
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ifoundmyprince:  your ring is gorgeous!!




I can understand a guy wanting to upgrade his wife’s ring – maybe when he proposed he couldn’t afford what he would have liked to have been able to give her.  But personally, I would never want to upgrade my ring. For me its very sentimental – whether it be a plain band or a 3ct diamond. I know that people have their own tastes and want to wear what they like, but its not about the jewelry for me. If I want something fancier then he can get me a RHR later.


Future Mother-In-Law has a tiny little diamond on her ring – probably less than .5ct. Future Father-In-Law proposed to her when he was 19 and had a crummy little job that paid nothing. He is now the VP of a company and they are living very comfortably. She still has her tiny little ring though and I think its really sweet that the sentimentality of it is more important than the upgrade. To each their own.


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