(Closed) I don't understand upgrading!

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MissCalifornia:  +1 That sounds like a nice and legit reason to upgrade. I am probably going to be one of those people 5 years down the road. But then again, who knows how I feel 5 years from now.


Post # 18
5622 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it just depends on your situation.

When fi & I picked out my ring, we didn’t have the cash to get my dream ring, thus we settled for something alot cheaper. I LOVE my ring, but it’s not my dream ring. We went into knowing that at some point, we’ll upgrade to my dream ring.

I think it all comes down to fact that some people are more picky than others. I’m VERY picky about anything I wear, and my fi knows & understands this. It’s actually one of the things he loves, because I KNOW what I want.

I don’t think upgrading is so bad if both of you agree on it and can afford it.

Post # 19
1193 posts
Bumble bee

@mockblock:  I would never upgrade because I adore my ring. It is exactly what I wanted and the perfect size stone for me. I am glad I don’t see a desire for an upgrade because my ring is very sentimental to me and I could never part with it!

But not everyone is so lucyk. Not every girl ends up with their dream ring or maybe the time of their engagement they were very tight finanically and later in life they make more. So I can understand upgrades then.

I wil admit though that I don’t understand all the quick upgrades a few months after getting engaged. I have even seen girls talking about a 3rd upgrade within a year. Sometime people are just never happy with what they have. 

I think to keep the sentimental value of a ring, I would save upgrades for important milestones/anniversaries. 

Post # 20
2585 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think if both parties are ok with it why not? Rings are things, they can be damaged, lost, stolen.. our love for eachother will always exist. 

Post # 21
6980 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@adoc86:  I love that! I’m a lawyer so I come across a lot of women with a lot of money, and every time I see some law firm partner (whose household income is prob like, millions) rocking a tiny stone it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy that she got married in school probably or shortly thereafter and that she still rocks it with pride rather than trading up for an “impressive” rock.

Post # 22
6317 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@mockblock:  Not everyone upgrades, but I can understand why some people do.

Often, couples get married fairly young and can’t afford a nice, decent-sized diamond (or other gemstone). The couple often agree that the ring is a temporary ring and upgrade when there’s more money.

Financial situations and/or tastes change. It is a piece of jewerly that is more important to some than to others. Some girls are happy to wear whatever. Other girls dream of diamonds and aren’t happy until it’s a diamond of a certain size and/or quality, which is fine too.

I don’t understand upgrading if there isn’t money available and/or the husband is dead-set against it, though. Like it has to be within reason, and not demanded. That’s the key IMO.

Post # 23
17 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ifoundmyprince:  i really like your ring too- so unique and beautiful!

Post # 24
1877 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

@Birdi:  +1

if my ring was a family heirloom, I certainly wouldn’t upgrade.  But a stone is a stone is a stone TO ME.  🙂

Post # 25
216 posts
Helper bee

I did decide to upgrade after a series of several events. First, my now Fiance told me that he was thinking of proposing so get together a list of rings (from moissyco). I was so happy just to hear that so I went kinda crazy. I knew I wanted white gold (so I thought) and I thought I wanted a cushion cut. I had never tried rings on so I assumed all rings were flush fit and that I wanted one solitaire with diamonds on the side. My mom had a 1 carat so I figured I would get a one carat too. After I got the ring I wasn’t thrilled with it. The cushion cut wasn’t me and I wore off the plating on the white gold incredibly fast. I didn’t even know white gold did that. Then I lost that ring, leaving me the opportunity to replace with the same thing, or upgrade. I did tons of research on here and tried on several rings at jewelry stores. I ended up with a 2ct amora moissy set in rose gold with 2mm side stones. I won’t upgrade this one and couldn’t be more in love!

Post # 28
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@mockblock:  Of course you aren’t 🙂 I love your ring too! Normally I’m not a huge fan of solitaires, but I love it with the pave!

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Thank you ladies! 🙂

Post # 30
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Not everyone is super sentimental about material goods. I can see both sides.

Post # 31
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would never upgrade my e-ring. It is such a sentimental thing for me and Fiance. He spent so long looking at rings and ended up designing mine so that it was exactly what he was looking for. I love it so much. A wedding band however, i am having an issue falling in love with. I got one that I thought was what i wanted and it looked so blah next to the e-ring. There just wasn’t anything sentimental about it and i thought that it took away from my e-ring. So, i upgraded kinda. I say kinda because the jewelry store wouldn’t take back my first one. So i just bought another one. I am still waiting for it to come in and i hope i like it more than the other one. I just don’t think anything will compare to how special my e-ring is to me. 

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