(Closed) I don’t wanna get my hopes up, but…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Good for you!!! That’s really great that you’re standing up for yourself!  Maybe you’ll get it tomorrow 🙂 🙂

Post # 4
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Newbee

@GwenvonD: My advice, dont back down. That was me 6 months ago. The closer move-date approached, the more anxious I became as I KNEW my ring would be on my hand any day. We had the same agreement – no ring, no aparment. Well, moving day came, no ring. We have been living together 6 months now and JUST started the ring process.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@GwenvonD: Are you opposed to getting engaged without a ring?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Good luck!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am curious if you’re prepared to walk out? Because honestly, you’ve given in before, you’ve had these talks before. Are you going to throw a scene in front of the rental people? It doesn’t sound like he is taking you seriously, and you haven’t really given him reason to since, despite all your talks and emails, you have gone along with him anyway. What if he wants this place? Are you prepared to tell him to rent it without you? Do you have a contingency plan should your engagement expectations not be met? I am not trying to provoke you, but I hope you’ve considered these things just in case he doesn’t have a secret ring waiting to get down on one knee in the rental office. I just think you should be prepared and have a plan of action for all possible outcomes to this situation. Good luck.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@GwenVonD – Stick to your convictions. Don’t sign the paperwork for an apartment if you don’t have a ring. Sorry. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I am full on rooting for you!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Eeeep, down to the wire with you Gwen! I feel nervous FOR you!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Good luck!!!! I really hope it happens for you.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Sesame Snap: ditto.

Part of me is like, “dang, good for you!!” but part of me is like, “hmm, is it really going to play out this way? That you’ll actually refuse to move in without a ring?” I kinda hate to say it, but I think you’ve put yourself in a much tougher spot since you already do live with him. It would be a totally different story if you hadn’t already made that choice.

I also kind of feel like it’s a difficult concept/ultimatum for him to understand, for the same reason. Telling him, “no I don’t feel comfortable moving in with you without an engagment” is kinda different than, “no I won’t sign for another apartment with you without a ring.” Regardless, keep us updated! We’re all on your side hoping for the best.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@GwenvonD:  Good for you!  Fingers crossed that you get the ring, but I am proud of you for sticking to your guns.  A stand and applaud you my lady.  Hopefully you will be setting a date while moving, XXXX.

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