(Closed) I don’t want a bridal shower.

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think you should do something you are uncomfortable with just for some gifts. You will get gifts at your actual wedding. I would just politley decline their offer. Plus, how weird is to share your shower with someone you don’t know?

Post # 5
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wouldn’t do it.  The gifts aren’t worth the discomfort you’re obviously experiencing.  It sounds like it has potential to be really awkward too.  And to combine it with someone you don’t know doesn’t sound like fun at all.  I’d tell them that you’re not comfortable with receiving gifts, therefore you are kindly declining.  I’d send a card to thank the community for the offer.  Just so they don’t feel slighted.  I know I wouldn’t be into it at all either.

Post # 6
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Yikes, I would decline the “shared” shower. That’s just kinda weird. I would say something like, “Wow, I really appreciate the offer, but I think it’s important the [so and so] gets her time in the spotlight, and I would feel really uncomfortable taking away from her day. Thank you for  thinking of me though!”

However, if your own family volunteers to throw you a shower, I would just let them do it. People enjoy hosting an event in someone’s honor. I didn’t really want a shower, either, but my mom and sister were dying to throw me one. They loved planning it, and I gotta say, it was a nice day ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
2681 posts
Sugar bee

I agree, I think it would be awkward to share a bridal shower with someone you dont know and for the girl that does want the shower, its probably weird for her as well.  I think you should politely decline.  If you dont want a shower, you dont want one.  If your Fiance wants gifts, tell him to have a man shower ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
374 posts
Helper bee

Tell you fiancee that people will deduct what they spend on the shower from what they’d give for the wedding.  Showers aren’t all they are cracked up t be. especially if the poeple throwing it don’t know you. 

I do see them wanting to welcome you to the community.  May I ask which community you’re speaking about?  That would have a bearing on my other suggestions.  For example, if it’s church, tell them to do a white cake and punch reception after church and you’ll be there that Sunday to meet everyone.  If it’s an ethnic community, I can’t contribute a comment as I don’t know the culture.

Today’s showers are more about ‘welcoming’ than helping a couple to set up kitchens.  People now a day are asking for the moon for shower gifts. 

Are you planning on inviting these people to the wedding?  If not, let them throw the joint shower and be happy they are a welcoming community.

Post # 10
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would say that if they are offering to throw you a shower then do it! Somebody is wanting to honor you and your wedding so let them. Plus, I’m with him on the gifts thing. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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