Post # 1
My dad and I haven’t gotten along since before I was ten. We are constantly fighting whenever we are in the same room and he tries to be very controlling of me. Needless to say, I do not have a good relationship with him and really don’t want to have a daddy/daughter dance at my wedding. However, I am going to suck it up and have one anyways but I’m not sure what type of song to pick. The typical daddy daughter songs just don’t fit the way we feel about each other. On top of that, whenever I hear those songs, I always cry because of the relationship I desperately want with him and that is not an emotion I want to feel and deal with on the day I am supposed to be happy. We have tried numerous times to put everything behind us and be more patient with each other and stop fighting. However, everything just goes back to the way it was the next day. I really don’t want to have this dance because it will be extremely awkward and fake, and I’m sure he feels the same way, but I just don’t have the heart to say that to him. Has anyone been in the same situation as me and what did you do? Or does anyone have suggestions for songs that won’t reiterate the good relationship we should, but don’t have?
Post # 3
I don’t have any advice on the relationship itself, but if you think that songs with lyrics may pose a problem for you, why not dance to an instrumental composition? You can pick one to suit the tempo, beat, etc. There just won’t be any words to stir up any unwanted emotions.
Post # 4
@blondie634: The wedding is completely your day so if you don’t feel comfortable having a father/daughter dance, I say just skip it! Don’t feel pressured by tradition or expectations. I have an international marriage so my husband’s culture never has a bride/groom first dance. He felt very uncomfortable with it (no matter how many different styles I offered and Youtube videos I showed him!). Even though it’s such a big part of American wedding tradition, we skipped it, and no one said a thing or cared a bit! In the end, it was the best way to go because my husband was happy, and I didn’t feel like I pressured him into an uncomfortable situation, which made me a happier and more relaxed bride. Do whatever makes you happy on your big day 🙂
Post # 5
Its your day. Traditions aren’t universal and don’t always apply 100% of the time. You should definitely do what makes you most happy.
Post # 6
@Olive12: Great advice! Pick a song that is neutral. I hope you two can work on building a special father-daughter relationship.