(Closed) I don’t want a honeymoon

posted 6 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@pineapplelove:  Why don’t you let him plan it then?  We’re taking off the day after our wedding and taking off the whole week.  We get back on Saturday morning, so we still have the weekend to get settled when we get home.

Post # 4
5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree, let him take the lead & plan it, my husband really enjoyed planning it because it was “his way of contributing to the wedding.”

Also, remeber that marriage = compromise and since it is important to your Fiance to go on a honeymoon, you should be willing to meet him in the middle and at least plan on a small minimoon or some sort of get-a-way together.  

Post # 5
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Our honeymoon is going to be 6 months after our wedding. It’s amazing knowing that I don’t have to plan all the little details of our Honeymoon during wedding planning. Plus we will have more money to spend since we will be done paying for the wedding! The main reason we are having such a late Honeymoon is because November is the good season to go and we’ll also get more honeymoon time by going over Thanksgiving week, 2 days that we didn’t have to use our vacation time on. 

Post # 6
21 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

I totally agree, i didnt want one at all as (wierd as it sounds) im not into far away exotic holidays, my reason for going away is purely relaxation. We also have other things we would rather spend the money on eg a house and, like you didnt want the stress of going away so close to the wedding. I disagree that you ‘have’ to do anything in relation to weddings now as i believe they should be personal to you. We have now decided to take a small honeymoon for 4 days to relax and spend time together but wont cause stress or cost the earth. My advice to your h2b would be to have a honeymoon next year as people often comment that after all the wedding build up and day itself they can sometimes feel deflated after returning from honeymoon unless they were desparate to go following the wedding. Suggest that you would have something to plan and look forward to following your wedding and prehaps let him organise a long weekend as suggested by Miss Longcoat as a compromise? 🙂

Post # 7
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

hmm.. possibly if you let him plan the vaca by himself he will realize how much easier it would be to plan AFTER the wedding and postpone it anyway 😉

I don’t think a honeymoon has to be any less enjoyable just because there is some time in between. And, like MissNumbers said, certain vacations are better in certain months, so there’s no sense taking a trip at a bad time, just because it happens to be the day after your wedding.

Post # 8
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why not compromise and do a long weekend somewhere easy and close? You’re going to be exhausted after all the planning/socializing/dealing with logistics. I think it’ll be really important to carve out some relaxation time for yourselves immediately after the wedding! Going back to work right after is pretty anticlimactic and exhausting!

Post # 10
746 posts
Busy bee

It’s not uncommon at all to delay the honeymoon. We’ve had more than one couple comment that they were glad that they delayed it for a few weeks or even months, as it gave them something else to look forward too. There’s absolutely no rule that says you have to go right after the wedding if it’s not a good fit for you!

Post # 11
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@pineapplelove:  I agree with other PPs to allow him to plan it.  It’s really not as bad as you think.  We booked our crusie and now we just await having to go.  Only thing we’ll need to do throughout the summer is get outfits, toiletries, etc together. 

Also possibly make a compromise with him.  Perhaps wait a month or two?

Post # 13
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Personally, I would rather have the honeymoon right away. It is very stressful planning the wedding and honeymoon at one time but all the more reason why I can’t wait to relax for the week after it. It would be much better than returning to work. And my mom put it into perspective for me for couples who wait. She said that if you wait, it just becomes a vacation instead of a honeymoon. I agree with her. If you go right after your wedding, it will be so blissful and romantic. But if you wait, it could fall short. Also, things happen. What if you get pregnant, one of you loses your job, or you decide that you rather spend money on a house. You may never get to go on a honeymoon. I would rather be safe than sorry. And people understand that they won’t get thank you cards the week after your wedding. You shouldn’t be thinking about anything but life with your new husband.

Post # 14
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@blondie634:  Hmm. I’m sure you didn’t mean it in this way, but I would be afraid that if I unexpectedly got pregnant or lost my job, I’d be wishing there was some extra money in the bank and regret spending it on a honeymoon. Fearing the unexpected can be unproductive for some people.

To the OP, there are always reasons you can think of to NOT go on a vacation/honeymoon. Try focusing on the positive: that it will be fun and relaxing and a great experience to start your married life! Even if it is postponed a bit.

Post # 15
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I know lots of people that don’t take a honeymoon right away. Especially if they have a summer wedding, they want to wait till winter to go away somewhere tropical. I don’t see any problem with that. But if your Fiance wants to go away right away then you need to work that out. But I think good compromises are having him plan it, so that you aren’t stressed with the holiday planning or taking a minimoon right after teh wedding for a weekend and then planning a bigger trip later in the year,

Post # 16
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am so glad I’m not the only one that feels this way! I also don’t want a honeymoon right away – I think there is just so much to do that there is absolutely no way I could relax.

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