(Closed) I dont want a reception.

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

– Have the reception in the afternoon on a Sunday

– Serve appetizers or cake and punch only, instead of a full buffet or seated meal; alternatively, do food like BBQ that’s easy to make in large quantities

– If you do centerpieces, do a pretty potted flower or some candles on a mirror instead of a big floral arrangement

– Use an iPod instead of a DJ if you want background music or dancing


Just a few suggestions! 

Post # 4
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

If you don;t want a reception, don’t have one.  I suggest a very small wedding then though.  I woudn’t expect a lot of people to want to attend (unless they are close) or to send gifts. 


    There’s nothing wrong with wanting to do a wedding your way, I say do it!!!

Post # 5
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

#1 way to reduce the cost of a reception:  cut the guest list.

Post # 6
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

You could do a reception with a dessert bar. You can still have your cake, but you could also incorporate different desserts (i.e cream puffs, ice cream sundaes, fudge, brownies, cookies etc.) I agree with IPod instead of DJ as well it really cuts down on the cost!

Post # 7
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

You don’t have to have a big, expensive reception by any means, but you should do something even if it’s brief. It’s a time for you to thank your guests for coming and for them to congratulate you. And you don’t need to cut the guest list to save money. Just keep it simple.

– Do simply cake and punch (not over a meal time). Go vintage with cashews and Jordan almonds.

– Do another simple serving, such as root beer floats, an espresso cart, donuts, or another novelty that you and your Fiance like.

– Self-cater, by having your family cook or by getting platters and sides from a deli. Buy your own beverages and alcohol.

– Have your reception at the church social room, at a public park reservable picnic site, at the home of your parents or close friend, or another free or inexpensive site. Most restaurants will give you the space for free with a food minimum.

Post # 8
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My fiance and I are throwing a full blown wedding and reception complete with dinner for under 6,000. I kid you not, that includes everything.

If you really want to cut costs, have an intimate wedding with your family and very close friends. I would recommend a sunday brunch afterward at a family member’s house or backyard. I saw a beautiful wedding done potluck style, where everyone in the family brought their favorite dish! 

If you are interested in cocktails, mimosas are great for sunday brunches, and the best part is: you’re not required to stick around all night! Change into that get-away outfit and dash out the door!

An easy way to keep it cohesive and well designed is to stick to a color palette, and visit etsy.com for supplies and a graphic designer. I had Nicole at Pinkdesignevents.com design me a monogram that I could put on everything, and design a invitation book with multiple inserts all for $50. My total cost of stationary will be under $100 when I get them printed. I also had my wedding dress custom made for me from Daniellemariedesigns on etsy for only $500 and it is EXACTLY what I always dreamed of. 

I agree, ipod djs are the best. Just make sure you hire a friend to take care of it.

This could be such a cute wedding reception for under $5000 even! I can just see it now…  


Post # 9
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010


If you don’t want the pressure of having a reception, but want to have a mini feast to celebrate your special day you can go with a stand-up reception instead of a sit-down meal reception.

A stand-up reception is a great way for you to celebrate with your guests but at the same time cut back on food costs. Usually hor d’eauvres and finger foods are served at stand-up receptions. Your guests can roam around the room, migle with one another and help themselves to as much food as they like, or as little as they like. No food is wasted because it’s up to them how much they eat, as opposed to all your guests sitting down and being served a five-course meal, most of which ends up getting wasted.

You can also have food stations around the room so that in addition to the hor d’eauvres that are being passed around they have the option of visiting the different stations.

Also, if you find a place that allows you to bring your own alcohol this will save you hundreds if not, thousands of dollars.

Personally, I don’t believe in cash bar because it’s not polite to ask your guests to spend money at your wedding on top of the gift they are giving you. A great alternative to open bar is to purchase a certain amount of drinks and then have ticket stubs (similar to raffle tickets) handed out to your guests as alcohol tickets. This is perfect because they won’t have to pay to drink, but at the same time you cut your cost by having only a limited supply of alcohol. This is also a very good way to keep guests from abusing alcohol and getting drunk at your wedding. Open bar usuallly invites people who drink heavily to take advantage and drink as much as they can before they pass out. By having the tickets, you can regulate alcohol consumption and save a lot of money.

Good luck girl! I hope all works out 🙂

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