(Closed) I Don't Want a Wedding

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Black-Eyed-Susan:  Would you be able to have the initmate ceremony that you want and then have the big party in a park?  They’re inexpensive to rent (most of the time) and you could find one with a shelter with picnic tables.  That way you don’t have the issue with your parent’s backyard.  You could also do just a dessert reception, or tea-time appetizer reception, etc. that is budget friendly.  You could then still do things like cut the cake, etc.

I hope it works out for you!

Post # 4
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Black-Eyed-Susan:  I hear you! We had the same problem.  We wanted a small immediate family only wedding in his hometown, then a reception the next day for everyone we didn’t invite, at a restaurant or something.  His parents freaked out (they felt we couldn’t exclude all the relatives) so now we’re having a larger “small” wedding, of about 60 people. 

I’d recommend cutting the guest list. Be ruthless and cut it down as much as possible.  This way, you might still be able to have the backyard wedding, with a reception consisting of heavy hors d’oevres (and avoid the cost of a sit-down meal). 

Another suggestion–the way we saved a lot of money was that we found a restaurant that has a large private party room and their food cost is very very reasonable.  If you can cut your guest list to maybe 50-75 people, you might be able to take everyone to a restaurant and avoid the costs of renting tents, tables, linens, paying for catering and decorations, etc etc.  The party room where we’re having our reception is gorgeously decorated anyway and all we need are centerpieces. 

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