Post # 1
How many of you are planning on not having bridesmaids in your wedding? I don’t feel like they are necessary, only because I’m having a very small, intimate wedding. The only person I am planning on asking is my best friend to be my matron of honor, just because she’s been closer to me than a sister my entire life and I can’t imagine not having her by my side. But my decision seems to be rubbing everyone the wrong way, and I think a couple of my friends are very upset. Everyone keeps telling me I will regret it one day, and that when I look back at my wedding I will wish I would’ve gotten the “full experience.” Now I’m upset because I keep thinking “what if they’re right?”, but I felt completely set on not having bridesmaids before all of the stress my decision seems to be causing.
What are your opinions? Should I cave and just have bridesmaids so future-me doesn’t regret it? Or should I stick to my original plan?
Post # 2
Bee, I only had my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor. No regrets here! It was a very nice experience for both her and me. She wrote a really lovely toast, and I think the experience brought us closer together. My husband only had his brother as best man, and that was great as well.
Go with your gut. You won’t be missing anything, especially if your wedding is an intimate one.
Post # 3
I’m not having bridesmaids, some people have taken that decision personally and it was never my intention to hurt them but I won’t change my mind. I have my reasons and I think I would regret it if I caved. At the end of the day it’s not about them, it’s about you and your groom so if you want a small, intimate wedding, go for it!
Post # 4
Is there a reason you don’t want bridesmaids?
I think you can still get ‘the full experience’ by having a bachelorette party and just inviting your friends. Maybe they just wanted to be a part of your wedding with you and that’s why they’re concerned, but it’s ultimately your decision.
Post # 5
The kind of people who would try to manipulate you to change your mind about an important decision for your wedding are the kind of people who would make nightmare bridesmaids. Stick with your plan.
Post # 6
spookybride : do whatever makes you happy. I am having my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor. I was only going to have her but my heart kept telling me I really wanted my best friend as a bridesmaid, so I asked her. I have other close friends who wanted to be bridesmaids and if I had an endless amount of money / was having a large wedding I would have asked, but it’s not going to be huge and my Fiance is only having a best man so I am sticking to two.
Post # 7
I only had a Maid/Matron of Honor and I don’t regret it at all! I debated having my two other closest friends, but one had just had a baby by the time we had our wedding and one was going to be 7 months pregnant. I didn’t want to put that on their plates knowing that it would be a hassle for them.
Post # 8
MsBeer : This is my exact situtation too, but I’m having maid and matron of honor (Sister and best friend). CO-MOHS! lol
Post # 9
catash : Yeah basically they are both MOH’s as far as I am concerned!
Post # 10
I am only having my FI’s sister and SIL as bridesmaids, no matron of honor. What “full experience” do your friends mean? If they are referencing a shower or bachelorette, they can still throw those for you without being bridesmaids. My two good friends are throwing me a bachelorette even though they are not official bridesmaids. One of the them is the mother of my ring bearer (and will have to walk down the aisle holding her son since he will only be 9 months old by the wedding) and the other will be helping me bustle my dress. I am paying for both of them to have their hair and makeup done and giving them corsages, but they are not bridesmaids per se.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas
I just had my best friend be my Maid of Honor. I didn’t bother with any bridesmaids.
I absolutely loved it! Made everything feel more intimate, in my opinion.
Her and her sister threw me a bachelerette, and we still had fun.
You don’t need a massive group of bridesmaids or groomsmen if you don’t want them.
Post # 12
I had a smaller destination wedding and while I wanted all of my BFFs in the wedding, it would have been half of the guests. Plus I didn’t want anyone to feel obligated to go. So my ex and I both had our siblings (my sister and his brother), just to make it easier.
But my friends were cute and all wore similar color dresses and said they were honorary bridesmaids, which I loved.
Post # 13
spookybride : do what feels right for you. I just had 2 maids of honor, my bff and my sister, and I had them walk down the aisle with me on either side and just slightly behind me, like body gaurds, since I didn’t have my father to walk down with me
Post # 14
spookybride : We are having 2 weddings. A civil one in the US and a church one in my SO’s country. I will only have a maid of honor in my civil wedding (basically to sign papers as a witness). For the church wedding, I will have her again as maid of honor and probably 3 other girls as bridesmaids.
Post # 15
We had no bridal party and I don’t regret it one bit.
I didn’t want a shower, and 2 groups of friends planned a casual bachelorette so I didn’t miss “the full experience”.
Also, I can’t imagine why folks want to be in a wedding party. Who wants to buy a dress that they might never wear again? I’d rather my guests had a great time without forced celebrations and whatnot.