(Closed) I don't want grandparents wearing corsages/boutonnieres

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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acw2016:  The most important line of this post is the last one.  If your mom is paying, you kind of have to do what she wants on this.  While it does sound like your grandparets suck, money talks and this isn’t the hill to die on.

Sorry that your grandma is such a B though.  That sucks!  

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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acw2016:  Anyone else in your family (sisters, brothers, cousins, etc) that you can trust to run interference?  Someone that will help steer “ugly gma” away when she tries to approach you with bullshit or tries to stand up and say some dumb ass shit?

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

It sucks when you have family that you don’t like, but I think because it will make your mom and Future Mother-In-Law happy, you should do it, especially as your mom is paying.  On a positive note, maybe these family members will choose not to attend your wedding, and you won’t hav eto worry about ti at all.  

Post # 25
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Helper bee

I feel ya, I have several step and step-step grandparents, that I don’t feel need to be honoured on the day.  I’m giving my one sane grandma a corsage, and everyone else can rsvp no and I wouldn’t be sorry!

Honestly, your mom doesn’t oversee the flower order, even if she is paying. Give your florist strict instructions not to change the order for anyone but you.  

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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acw2016:  LOLOLOLOL!!!!!  She is just too, too much smh.  I will leave you with this advice.  No, don’t stick mean gma in the corner, but at the first sign of nonsense you need to be able to give a couple of people a private signal that they understand means “rein her in/help me”.  Set this up just in case and you will be able to breathe easier.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I understand the drama, but trying to get out of it with your mom and then make exceptions is only going to cause more drama… But this time you will be the one causing it. I think it is simple enough to just let them have the flowers and not even give it another thought…especially if you don’t have to pay. You don’t need to be the one to hand them out or pin them on– your mom wants them so she can take that on. Just don’t stand in the way. This is not the hill you want to die on, it sounds like there are far worse battles to fight in your family. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee

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acw2016:  These people sound horrid. I would order the flowers, then tell your mom and Future Mother-In-Law that they have to handle picking up the corsages,passing them out, pinning them on, etc. Then your mom and Future Mother-In-Law will be happy, you won’t have to deal with the g-parents, and you can forget about the whole thing and not let it bother you.

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