(Closed) I don’t want my FSIL’s boyfriend there.

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

As a member of your bridal party I personally feel she should be allowed a +1. I do, however, understand your concerns. Trust me. 🙂 But, I promise you will not notice on your wedding day. You will be so over the moon excited about your future and busy visiting with your loving family and friends, you won’t even notice him. He would be crazy to make an ass of himself in front of your family and friends on your wedding day anyways.

Post # 4
46606 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Unfortunately I don’t see a way around giving your bridesmaid a plus one.

If they are “betrothed” and you are inviting other couples who live together or are engaged, it would be a slap in the face to her, not to invite him.

I suggest also that as she will soon be family, you would want to go out of your way to invite him.


As  Miss Seersucker has said, you will be so busy and having so much fun that you need not pay him any attention.

Post # 6
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You cannot give others a plus one and not extend it to her.

Post # 7
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

eliwhit – I’m glad that you’re “biting the bullet” and inviting this fella, regardless of what he’s done in the past.  You’ll avoid any family tension, which you definitely don’t want as you prepare for your wedding day and thereafter.  In all honesty, you may see this guy a couple times during the reception and that’s it.  Plus, you’ll be “on cloud nine” and NOTHING can ruin the day that you pledge your love and committment to your fiance’!  Everything will be okay! 

Post # 8
3254 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Don’t even think about him! You pretty much have to invite him, but like you said, you’ll be so wrapped up in your night and your hubby that you don’t need to worry about an immature little boy. Don’t worry about him for one more minute! 🙂

Post # 9
47 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

That does sound like a tough position to be in. If i were you, I’d leave it up to your Fiance. You don’t want to be the mean bridezilla. 

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