(Closed) I don't want silly Bollywood dances at my wedding reception

posted 6 years ago in South Asian
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

No, I refused to include them and my North Indian fiance seemed super confused about what I was talking about and said a regular dinner/reception/dance party was cool with him as even that is super western for his family (he was born and raised there). My sister didn’t have any at her wedding 7 years ago either. My parents hate them as much as we do.  

I’d be more tolerant of them if they were after dinner, but they are invariably before. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@NATO:  Is there some other type of entertainment which you can hire and then tell your family that you got X instead of the dancers? 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I absolutely love dances! However, I do put limitations on the dances at my events. I only allow a certain # of dances, depending on the event. Also, I only allow quality dancers to perform. This usually includes my friends that have been on dance teams or are part of professional troupes. Since I have these filters, my events usually end up having 3-4 high quality dances, and the audience doesn’t get bored. 

Even though I’m super Bollywood and love performances, I too, am insisting on no performances during the reception. Since the reception is off limits, I am allotting 1.5 hours during the Garba/Sangeet for performances. 

I would see if you can move all of the performances to the Sangeet/Garba. If you can’t, then I would try to limit the number of dances at your reception so that you and your audience don’t get annoyed. 

 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I absolutely love dances! However, I do put limitations on the dances at my events. I only allow a certain # of dances, depending on the event. Also, I only allow quality dancers to perform. This usually includes my friends that have been on dance teams or are part of professional troupes. Since I have these filters, my events usually end up having 3-4 high quality dances, and the audience doesn’t get bored. 

Even though I’m super Bollywood and love performances, I too, am insisting on no performances during the reception. Since the reception is off limits, I am allotting 1.5 hours during the Garba/Sangeet for performances. 

I would see if you can move all of the performances to the Sangeet/Garba. If you can’t, then I would try to limit the number of dances at your reception so that you and your audience don’t get annoyed. 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Firstly it’s YOUR wedding! So don’t let family pressure you into something you think is tacky!

I know a lot of couples and families that do love these types of performances and enourage them. In fact, I’m the MoH for my best friend’s wedding and she’s insisting the bridal party participate in multiple dances, skits, etc…which I’m kind of dreading! I do like entertaining performances or a personal/funny performance that’s special for the couple, but I really hate long random Bollywood performances during a reception. It’s your wedding, not a cultural show!

We’re not having any performances during our reception, we’re only having speeches/toasts from parents, bridal party and us during dinner and then dancing afterwards. We are having a few (only 2-3 short ones) during our Sangeet. And then we hired professional bollywood dancers to perform during the Sangeet too.

If you don’t like performances then just tell family the itenirary of the wedding (which obviously won’t include performances)! If your families complains just tell them they can perform during their own wedding! 

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