Post # 211
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642 posts
Busy bee
They didn’t have to be OKAY with it, at 14 you can feel displaced, angry, like the whole world is against you, and insist that you have the right to choose who to live with. And very often the most loving thing you can do is let them. I wanted to live with my grandmother when I was 15, but she became unwell. 14/15 is a VERY common age for the child of divorced parents to move to another caregiver. And if it ends up going to court, the decision will usually be weighted towards what the child wants if they are that age. I’ve been through this age twice with my own children. It’s not pretty.
I’m curious as to whether the OP’s father has remarried, has it been mentioned?
Post # 212
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3302 posts
Sugar bee
I understand where you’re coming from – really. I went to live with my father after my parents’ divorce. Having a family picture taken without you? That’s inexcusable and I blame your mother every bit as much as your stepfather. But I will say that in the long run, acting with class counts. Holding onto old grudges hurts – resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Let your stepfather walk your mother down the aisle. They deserve each other.
Post # 213
Member
1739 posts
Bumble bee
This thread is unbelievable. I’ve been reading it for 4 days, and it’s always the same people saying the same thing over and over again (including the OP).
The next thread I expect from to see from the OP is “I don’t want my stepdad in any of the family photos.” Any bet takers?
Post # 214
Bee
11803 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Looks like this thread has run its course. I’m going to go ahead and close it.