Post # 1
I haven’t had my bridal shower yet, my sister did tell me she was planning it for the second weekend in September. My wedding is October 2 and I just worry that the second weekend in September is just too close to the wedding to have a shower and that it might come off as greedy? I don’t know, most of my family does give gifts for both occasions and it feels weird to have them come to a shower and then 3 weeks later a wedding. What do you guys think?
Disclaimer: I am certainly not expecting these people to bring gifts, but the timing just feels weird to me.
Post # 3
It happens! Im sure your shower and wedding attendees have accounted for the close date and chose their gifts accordingly 🙂
Post # 4
@Eva Peron:See this is the problem, the guest don’t know. My sister has not yet sent out invitations. I have no idea what she’s waiting for.
Post # 5
Really…no one has any opinions?
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s that weird, it’s not like it’s the weekend before. Even then, I wouldn’t think anything of a shower date being close to a wedding date, they are related events. It makes sense that they’re close together. I don’t know how having them farther apart makes them less greedy… I mean it’s a gift-giving party.
Post # 7
this is a pretty normal timeline
Post # 8
My shower is 3 weeks before wedding, seems pretty normal to me, I dont think you have anything to worry about. Except that the invites havent been sent. Wonder what she is waiting for?
Post # 9
I agree. I think a lot of people have this timeline for showers or a simalar one.
Post # 10
People expect showers to happen during the couple of months before the wedding, including three or even two weeks before, so don’t worry about that. People also know that they are expected to bring a gift to a shower (that is what a shower is all about), but they are grownups and can be trusted to manage their own budgets: most properly they will bring a small basic-housekeeping gift to the shower, and save their extravagant generosity for the gift they send privately to your home; or they will bring their wedding present to their shower (with an apology and an explanation, so as not to embarrass you and all the other shower guests by suggesting they consider extravagant gifts to be part of the shower expectation.)
But I wanted to suggest, that just as you don’t want to sound greedy for materialistic gain, you also don’t want to appear greedy for control and micro-management. The hostess of your shower is your sister. This is her event to plan, right down to the timing, the guest-list and the invitations. If it doesn’t “come off”, it reflects on her abilities, not on you. The LESS you have to do with arranging gift-getting opportunities for yourself, the MORE gracious you appear. Your role at a shower should be simply that of appreciative guest-of-honour, with the emphasis on guest. A good guest goes along with her hostess’s plans, is gracious to all the other guests, says “thank-you” repeatedly and goes home promptly when the party ends.