- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
(Sorry for the length, I tried to cut as much as possible)I love checking our gift registries, especially the one that tells us who the gift giver is, that is until tonight.
My mom was super good friends with a lady while I was growing up, it was to the point where I basically treated her like a second mother. About 5 years ago this lady began acting very strange toward my mom and started avoiding her. At first my mom didn’t realize what was going on (it was a really busy time in both if their lives). Eventually, my mom realized that her calls purposely weren’t being answered or returned. My mom tried to talk to her friend to figure out what the heck was going on, but the lady would always act like there was no problem. My mom thought maybe she was having a rough family time, so she tried to be supportive and continue their friendship. After an awkward couple of months where they would see each other occasionally but my mom’s friend would be very cold toward her, my mom stopped trying. The friend would still send my mom Christmas and birthday cards with notes in them that sounded as if they still got together all the time, but they didn’t. In fact, my parents saw this lady and her husband in a store one day and when the lady saw my parents, she turned around and walked out the door. My mom still has no idea what ever happened to their friendship but she knows whatever happened can’t be fixed (she’s tried). It has been at 3 to 4 years since my parents have heard from their former friends.
Anyway, when I was checking the registry, one of the gifts was from this lady! I don’t know what to do. I haven’t talked to her in 5 years. I really don’t feel like I can accept a gift from her. I’m so glad I peeked at who this gift was from though. Its a semi-expensive gift, and I can’t imagine what a shock it would be to my mom and my whole family if I had opened it the day after the wedding at the brunch my mom is putting on (the gift is being shipped directly to my parents house). I don’t even know if I should tell my mom who the package is from until after the wedding. As confused and stressed as it has made me, I think it will be so much worse for my mom. Should I tell her about it? I really don’t want the gift, should I return it and send the money back to the lady? I don’t want to do anything cruel to to this lady, but I just can’t imagine writing her a thank you note for this gift. What would I say, “Thanks for the _____, Sorry you weren’t at the wedding because you won’t talk to any of us”? The gift was something that my Fiance and I really liked, but I know every time we use it, I’ll just think of her, and I don’t want to do that. Do you have any advice? Should I wait to tell my mom? Should I (graciously) return the gift? I wish she would have just continued to ignore me and my family. It’s totally ruined my night, I mean, I’m up at 4am writing this post :/