(Closed) I don’t want to be a copy cat

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think it depends… what kind of things do you want to do at your wedding that she is doing at yours? 

Post # 4
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

Do what you want. Everything about a wedding can be “copycat”. Sand ceremony? Done a million times over. Handfasting, Apache Blessing, Candle lighting, I could go on all day. In fact, isn’t that what wedding blogs are for? It’s inspiration, but a lot of the time you’re just recycling and reinventing what’s already been done. So I say, go for it! Do what feels like both of you as a couple and who cares if it’s similar to your friend’s wedding. It’ll still be a blast!

Post # 5
841 posts
Busy bee

Like someone said above? Do what you want to. It’s your day. :). I personally don’t think it’s possible for someone to ‘copy’ someone else’s wedding ‘ideas’. With roughly 6 Billion people on this earth, I am sure there is bound to be some idea overlapping, lol. Good Luck and Congrats!! 🙂

Post # 6
690 posts
Busy bee

I totally know where you are coming from.  I went to a wedding a few weeks ago, and she had done of TON of similar stuff to what I was planning.  It wasn’t even just vague ideas in my head, but like I had all the supplies or had done it already.  To make matters worse the bride was like “Oh I’m sure you are looking around and getting lots of ideas”, so she’ll REALLY think I copied her.

Oh well, not much you can do.  Like others said, a lot of the new ‘original’ ideas are super common if you spend time online.  Do you have a lot of overlap in your guest lists?  Since its not a huge problem if its just one friend who things you copied them, and it will still be new to all your other guests 🙂

Post # 7
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Agreed ^^ It is your beautiful day so do whatever you had planned already. It is not worth the stress of trying to change it incase someone thinks you were “copying” her.. and truth be told, I don’t think that would come to a single guest’s mind because they don’t walk in trying to compare your wedding to someone else’s. They are there to celebrate with you!  If they’re anything like half the people I know, they won’t even notice you have/don’t have flowers on the table, or what favors you used, what colors things were, if there were patterns… the only reason we think in terms like this is because we’re in planning mode.  It will all work out =)

Post # 9
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think you should change anything you’re doing because she’s doing it.  It’s not as if she invented cupcakes or wishing trees.

You chose those things because they worked or meant something for you.

Post # 10
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We went to a friend’s wedding last year and LOVED everything they did. When we got engaged and called to tell them, I flat out said how much we loved their wedding and that we are planning to fully steal a ton of their ideas.

They were beyond flattered, and the more ideas I tell them we “stole”, the more excited they are to experience the wedding from the guest side! She even sends me detailed pictures of things so I can show them to our vendors.

And I mean a TON of ideas. Here’s what I’ve stolen so far:

We are getting married in a restaurant at the top floor of a skyscraper. Ceremony and receiption are taking place in the restaurant.

Everyone in the wedding party is wearing whatever they want.

We are having their exact appetizers (mini sliders, mini mac and cheeses, tomato soup shooters with grilled cheese croutons).

We are having gourmet cookies instead of a cake.

I even brought their wedding pictures to our photographer to copy a lot of the shots they took, and I brought pictures of their flowers to my florist to mimic their look and feel.


Post # 11
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am in a slightly similar situation – except I’m the girl who got married first!  We’re going to a friends’ wedding next month and from what she’s told me it is going to have very similar things to what we had.  Part of me is upset that they’d choose what we did – but happy that 1. we did it first, 2. flattered they liked ours so much, 3. glad what we chose is “in style”.

I wouldn’t worry about it.  Make your wedding day entirely yours – no matter what.

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