(Closed) How do I nicely say "no"….

posted 5 years ago in Cooking
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Do what my grandma does and share the recipe leaving out one important ingredient so theirs doesn’t come out quiiite as good as yours. 😉 lol!

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

When asked for your recipe, say  ” Sorry, but I don’t really use a recipe. I kind of make things up as I go along.” 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MissBoPeep:  we have an aunt in my family that does this. I don’t like it. Its mean. But then again we always give credit where we got the recipie and she’s a b**tch in other ways, so we don’t really like her anyways. lol

@julies1949:  +1 if you’re really that concerned.

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

say it’s a secret family recipe that you swore to your great-aunt you’d never give out.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Are you making up these recipes or using/altering someone else’s? 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Woodstock:   Lol! My grandma’s one of those cute little old ladies who can do no wrong. 😛

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think I would be that concerned about giving a recipe and not getting “credit” for the dish. I just think as long as people are enjoying the dish who cares! Then again, I would not be the type of person to not give credit where credit is due…I always tell people which website I found it on or which person passed it along to me. If you are dead set aganist giving out your recipes I would just tell the person that you decided not to share recipes due to a previous experience. It may come off alittle childish.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@julies1949:  This is what I usually do … mostly because it’s true! The upside is, if I were to even write out the recipe, it wouldn’t be quite right because measurements like “two shakes of cinnamon” doesn’t really mean anything to anyone except me. So the recipe would not taste anything like mine!

If it’s a baked good or something, I just tell them where I got the recipe from — like, “I think it’s the Blueberry Pie III recipe on allrecipes.com.”  And then they can get it themselves, and maybe they won’t find the same one.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MissBoPeep:  haha i wasn’t really saying your g’ma is mean.. I just don’t like this aunt… so it’s more fire power against her! 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Unless you developed the recipe from scratch, it’s kind of tough to lay claim to it as “your” recipe.

That said, it is always a good idea to credit where you got a recipe, whether from a person, a book, online, etc.

If you want to dodge, you can always just say, “oh, you can just google it.” Whatever recipe it is, there will be a million of them out there and it will be up to that person to figure out which one they want to use.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@julies1949:  That’s what I tell people because it’s usually true. With anything else, I tell them it’s on a particular website, or it’s a family secret.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Just say it’s a family secret!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’v used my fathers recipes in the past where I had to beg for them, he finally gave them to me when i turned 18. I NEVER share those. I have also made my own recipes up and when people ask for them I just tell them it’s a family recipe. No one has ever thought it was rude, they understand. Sometimes I will trade my recipe for one of there’s. 

Also, leaving out an ingredient is a good idea. 🙂

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