I dont want to be taller then my husband

posted 11 months ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

6-2= 4 

Minus one inch for good measure….

3.5 ” heels would work well. I would honestly go for 2″-2.5″ heels. 

 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

A 4 inch difference is a lot already, and don’t forget that his shoes are going to make him taller than 5’6. Why don’t you two go to a shoe store and both try on shoes and see what you like? I would think if you get 3 inch heels to be 5’5, his shoes will make him 5’7 or taller and that’s still at least a 2 inch difference. But also keep in mind that it’s rare for both of you to be standing with perfect posture for a photo. This probably isn’t as big a deal as you’re thinking it’ll be. Go with whatever shoes you love!

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I think it depends on what you are comfortable in. If your dress is full length, no one will see your shoes anyway unless you choose to show them, so how much taller do you want your Dh to appear? You could choose anything from flats to 3-1/2″ heels. And keep in mind that most men’s dress shoes have a “heel” of about 1″ or slightly more, so he will have a slight boost over bare feet. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Get a taller husband. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I’m 5ft 8′ and my husband is 5ft 9′ (well, he claims to be, to be honest I think it’s more like 5ft 8.5′). I wore flats. You can’t see shoes in a long dress and I was really comfortable!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I’m 168 and he’s 170

I will go by flats, rock that comfy 😂

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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zzar45 :  nailed it.

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Abcakez :  my husband is only a little taller than me, I wore flats on my wedding day. I wanted to be comfortable so I went with flats. I do think you can find a small pair of heals and be fine 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Height-wise we’re in the same boat as you and honestly I have never gotten my hands on a pair of shoes that are attractive to me AND made me taller than him. 

4 inches is a lot, and if you wear shoes that high on the reg, you deserve a cookie. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I don’t understand what difference it makes who’s taller. I’m 5’5″ and my husband is 5’7″ so occasionally I’m taller than him if I’m wearing heels. I like to wear high heels when I’m dressed up and my husband always compliments me and doesn’t seem at all self conscious. Is this really a common thing that the guy is supposed to be taller? 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I went with kitten heels.  I couldn’t do flats unless you count the sneakers.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

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crustyoldbee :  I’m so glad you said this, I was sitting here wondering if I was missing something! My husband is only a little taller than me, so if I wear heels I’m taller than him, and it’s never even crossed my mind that it should be an issue… I’m genuinely confused…

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

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Abcakez :  I really thought op was going to say she is like an inch taller or something. 

He has 4 inches on you!!! Wear what you are comfortable in. If you don’t want to be taller that would mean you would be wearing 5 inch heels. So you can go with flat’s all the way up to 4 inch heels. It’s really not that hard.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Interesting! I’ve always seen a general desire by men and women to have a taller man. I think that’s just how couples are portrayed a lot? That said my brother is shorter than his girlfriend and I think nothing of it, but I know other couples where the woman refuses to ever wear heels for fear of being taller. Generational? Regional? Cultural? As is say this is quite a common thought process in my circle. 

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kittycatcat :  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

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hockeybee0104 :  It really is interesting! I can honestly say a man’s height has never been something I’d even considered when picking partners, etc. The women in my family are all tiny – I’m 5’4” and am considerably taller than most of them – so most of the couples in my family have a taller man by default, but I’ve never thought about it. I certainly never considered it when picking shoes, etc.

My best friend is really tall and loves heels, so she’s usually towering over everyone when we go out, including her husband. 

I don’t know, seems like I’m in a minority, I just don’t get it! 🙂

 

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