Post # 17
@MerryWidow: Is it possible that giving up your deceased husband’s name is painful and on some level feels like a loss. I am just throwing out the possibility and am in no way trying to make a judgement on how you feel or your level of healing from the death of your husband. I just know that I can only imagine the pain of losing my husband and that sometimes we feel inappropriate guilt or pain when we move on after the loss. Again, I may be way off. I just thought it was worth a thought.
Post # 18
I’m also not judging and I’m for women keeping their last names….so much easier. But you did take your last husbands name. Like you said earlier it’s a part of life you went through, however, you are getting remarried. I’m not saying to take his name. I like the joint name idea. But you are starting a new chapter of your life….creating a new identity. If you were to keep your late husband’s name make sure it’s for all the right reason’s. Besides….you have time to think about this even after the wedding.
Post # 19
I really don’t feel like changing my last name either, my finace was adopted when he was 8 so his last name is not his original last name. Even though he is close to his family and they are good people for the most part I just don’t want to deal with it. Why should I have to go through the extra paperwork and trouble just to get my name changed on a few documents. Really? The funny thing is my mom has been married to my stepfather for a couple of years now and she still has not changed her last name, which is cause for some arguement between them. Socailly she goes by Mrs. W….. but legally she is still Ms. C….. lol.