(Closed) I don't want to do Secret Santa at the office

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
721 posts
Busy bee

So how about baking a bunch of stuff for your SS?  That’s BS that you have to choose from a list of 3 pre-specified gifts.

Post # 3
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

aw babe im sorry you feel that way, i give great hugs but a stranger internet hug will have to do!!


I do that for xmas now for the last two years, I dont bake too much but i dont buy anyone gifts, im against it and so is my SO. ps our house isnt decorated loll. Holidays are no fun for me n my SO either. Like whatsoever as we both get a bit of anxiety/or alot with family gatherings.

Theres no way u can back outta this SS with ur work?


Post # 4
8580 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Do they have to be purchased items? Since you don’t feel like going out, maybe you can bake a bunch of pies, cakes, cookies, ect? Try a new recipe or something you’ve never tried? [Cake pops, chooclate molten cookies, ect]. Or even create lipglosses or sugar/salt scrubs as gift. Sugar and salt scrubs are really fun to make [which may put you in a better mood if you like to make things], and they are pretty cheap – hit the dollar store and buy some sea salt, sugar and brown sugar, and any type of body loving oil [jojoba, coconut, olive, ect].

If you really don’t want to do it.. then don’t. The names are drawn from a bowl.. an odd number shouldn’t matter. Just know that not participating in things like this may be off putting to your coworkers. Sometimes it’s not about what YOU like doing, but about the enjoyment others get from it.

Post # 5
1416 posts
Bumble bee

Tell me about it! I’ve just started a new job- as in I started this week and I’ve already been put down for secret santa. Ive been given a womans name who I’ve never met and a list of things she wants. Like WTF people! I dont know anyone there yet! She will 100% be given a gift voucher.

Post # 6
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That’s unfair that you have to do it. I feel when it comes to giving/spending your own money at work it should be optional and not compulsory. We have Secret Santa at our work but it’s optional.

If you don’t want to do it can you just say so? What would happen if you did this? You never know there may be others who feel the same way but don’t want to speak out  

Post # 7
4525 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Odd numbers should work fine, unless you’re doing pairs. If you put 11 names in hat, for example, each of the 11 people can take one. 

Post # 8
7111 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Dragonfly715:  If you’re already doing a bunch of baking, maybe you could just give some cookies or something you’re already making anyway. I would even annouce it before names are called: “Hey, my gift is going to be baked goods, so whoever I get, hope you like homemade cookies!” Plus, everyone loves homemade goodies.  Or, if you really don’t think you can afford even that, maybe tell your boss privately that you just can’t afford it this year. Maybe they’ll offer to cover yours. Or let you off the hook gracefully. Sorry you’re bummed about the holidays.

Post # 9
1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

xstitchbride425:  I was just thinking that. If they were pairing up, then it’s not a secret.

Post # 10
4525 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

TheMrsTulip:  exactly. On the other hand, if people can only pick from 3 specific things, maybe they’re just not into surprises there :-p

Post # 11
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

if it’s a matter of money, then i would do something inexpensive; make some cookies or cake pops, and include the recipe. that’s a great gift. or make a sugar scrub! you can make a killer exfoliater that is holiday friendly with just some sugar, oil, and a peppermint extract (or just use peppermint oil if you can find it). put it in a mason jar with some ribbon around the neck and boom. cheap gift, still looks awesome.

if it’s about not wanting to do it, i’d try to give yourself a pep talk. i totally understand not being in the christmas spirit…but maybe switching to the mindset that you might be making someone else’s day will probably help how you feel about things. and you’re benefiting too–someone will be taking time to do something nice for you so it’s win win!

at the end of the day if it is absolutely out of the question for you, then i would talk to your boss privately and see if she/he can offer a solution that might let you off the hook without a big fuss.

Post # 12
7590 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Haha, I would do something along the lines of MrsHalpert‘s suggestions and then for the “3 gifts” that I recommend my Secret Santa to get me, I’d put: “Amazon gift card, Starbucks gift card, or Sephora gift card.”

Cuz for me, getting any of those is essentially the equivalent of cash 😛

Post # 13
2693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Could you maybe talk to your boss in private?  I don’t think you should have to do this if you don’t want to… especially if money is tight.  As for not being in the holiday spirit.. you don’t have to go out and do any Christmas shopping… do it online.  So much easier and you might be able to find some awesome deals and steals…like say a nice $30 gift that is on super sale for $10.

Post # 14
2118 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would suggest talking to your boss in private, letting him/her know that you’re having a really hard time right now financially and would it be ok for SS to not be ”choose from 3 items” but just ”do whatever”, and that way you’ll make cookies. 

I’m so sorry you’re going through a hard time..I just read your previous post about your ex breaking up with you and the issues with the house 🙁 

You’re ”just” going through a rough patch.. things will improve and you’ll come out of this much stronger.

If you can, I’d advise you to try and sell your house and get a smaller safer place that you’ll be happier in.. 


Post # 15
438 posts
Helper bee

I’d suggest talking to your boss in private. They shouldn’t make you feel bad about not particiating.

If they do force you to, I agree with the other bees. Bake something. Cookies, bread… something yummy and include the recipe. I don’t know how crafty you are, but sugar scrubs, body butter, and soaps are super easy and cheap to make.

I’d also like to know if they force people who do not celebrate Christmas to participate.

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