(Closed) I don't want to get married here

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014


I’ve had a couple of friends go through this process, and it can be a pain.  One’s still dealing with the mess of paperwork, one breezed through it.  The first thing to remember is you only talked to your Fiance for an hour this morning, when he probably had a bunch of stuff on his mind and was questionably caffeinated.  So don’t take it too much to heart!

Since you’ve already been doing your research, print out the documentation and rules for both options.  That way it’s not ‘your word’ on the process, it’s the official word from the government.  Once you do that, sit down with him and go over the paperwork.  You’re on a time crunch no matter what since you’ll want to minimize the long distance time, so efficiency and organization are your friends! 

You’ll also want to look up the marriage rules for the state where you’ll be thinking of getting married.  Every state in the US has different rules on what paperwork is needed, waiting periods, etc.  It’s a lot easier to make a decision when you’ve got the full picture.

Post # 4
12244 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That’s awful!

You definitely need you explain to Fiance that you wouldn’t be happy having the wedding in Spain. If the fiance visa is an option, do it!

Post # 6
41 posts

that is really tough, i hope things work out for you. If it helps, you might not have the wedding you dreamed of as a little girl, but you have found someone who loves you enough to want to spend the rest of his life with you. That’s pretty special! The most important bit of the wedding is your groom, so not matter what, congratulations on finding him!

Post # 7
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think part of the breezing through is having the correct documentation.  I would strongly suggest talking to an immigration lawyer, more than talking to the embassy.  A good immigration lawyer will be able to point you in the right direction, and make sure you’ve got the right paperwork and all that.  They’re not terribly cheap, but they can save you time and headaches in the long run for sure.

Post # 8
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Oh you poor thing. I totally understand. 

I think you should have a quick civil ceremony in Spain so you are officially married then have a honeymoon/wedding somewhere cheap but fabulous like Mexico once you settle in the US. Perhaps for your 1 year anniversary.

I currently live in Toronto and I hate it. It’s so damn cold and after 4 years I’m just 100% over this whole place and want to go home to Australia. Unfortunately FI’s work (and mine if I’m honest) is going so well it’s an insanly bad career move to leave now. So we are sticking it out for a bit longer, but I really feel stuck, sad and not acting like the happy person I normally am. Your environment certainly affects how you feel and thankfully you are moving away from the place you dislike. That is a great thing ๐Ÿ™‚

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