(Closed) I don't want to invite my parents to our elopement… am I being selfish?

posted 8 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

An elopement is about 2 people ONLY…so NO you do not have to invite your parents… This is about you and your Fiance not anyone else so have the day YOU both want and rejoice in that.. life is too short to live with regrets.. 🙂

Good Luck

Post # 4
716 posts
Busy bee

not to be harsh.  but if your father cared, he had a really terrible and hurtful way of showing it.  elope, enjoy yourselves, and everything else will work itself out.  don’t deprive you and your Fiance of any happiness because someone in your life can’t be supportive. *hugs*

Post # 5
6116 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@theseautumneyes:  Are you hurt about them not being able to contribute to the original wedding vision you had?

Post # 7
962 posts
Busy bee

Are you saying that they paid for your sister to have a nice wedding but not for you to have one? If that is the case, then that stinks. Has their financial position substantially changed since your sister’s wedding?

Post # 8
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

How long have you guys been together? I know it is hard but would you consider waiting to save up some money on a wedding? You can do it at someplace like a state park where you can get beautiful spaces at rental prices that are super cheap. Or it says you are looking at getting married in Vegas which can also be done really reasonably and you could still invite your friends/family to a destination wedding. I think you should look into having the wedding you really want at a affordable price.

Post # 11
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was going to say that you are being selfish because your parents deserve to see you get married, if not just for raising you just well enough to be out on your own and getting married.  But your dad was way out of line, and I’m so sorry he’s ruined your idea of a happy wedding.  If I had called my parents and told them I was getting married that day the would have only asked I wait a few hours because it’d take them that long to drive here. 

The best thing about wedding is that in the end you’re married.  Which means you’re on your own.  It sucks that your parents are being mean and unfair, but that will happen in life.  Now you’ll have a partner to help you get through all that crappy stuff with, and start your own life and family with. 

Post # 12
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Nope. Those people wouldn’t be invited to my elopement. I just wouldn’t tell them when you go. 

Post # 13
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It’s only an elopement if no one is invited. So no, you don’t have to invite them. 

Post # 14
962 posts
Busy bee

While I generally do not think it is the responsibility of the parents to pay for their daughter’s wedding, there is something really sick about paying for one daughter’s wedding and tellign the other that she won’t get any help. At least on the facts presented, this seems really wroing

Post # 15
1183 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@MrsElopement:  It’s only an elopement if no one is invited. So no, you don’t have to invite them.

Ecactly.  But I’m sorry your parents suck.


Post # 16
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Your parents are sick and you have no obligation to invite them. Elope and LOVE it!

I’m in a similar situation with my parents but it’s harder because I used to be SO close to my mom. I think about elopement far more frequently these days lol. If you want to chat, feel free to PM me 🙂

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