(Closed) I don’t want to jump the gun but I do want to nip this in the bud…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hmm. We had a similar issue, we aren’t inviting children of cousins either. We plan to put little notes in with the Save-The-Date Cards to the cousins saying this.

Dear X and X,

Please save the date for our wedding, we hope to see you there. Unfortunately due to space restrictions at our venue, we are unable to invite all the children in our extended family, and therefore extend this invitation just to you two. However we look forward to catching up with you and (childrens names) after the wedding.

With love,

Y & Y

You can steal it and modify if you wish. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@GreenGables:  I’d think ‘M’s Family’ to mean Darling Husband and kids. Maybe don’t stress until it becomes an issue, don’t go looking for trouble. πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@GreenGables:  If she is looking at hotels now, I would give her a call and tell her that the ceremony and reception is adult only. We included this in our wedding newsletter. I actually got it from the Bee last year:

Due to the revereance of the ceremony and due to the fact that reception will extend into the evening, children under (choose your age here) will not be accomidated at the wedding ceremony or reception.

When we sent our RSVP cards it read, “We have reserved __ seats in your honor” and then wrote in the names of who was invited.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would address it now since it’s come to your attention now. If you don’t address it, you could be thought to be implying by your silence that the kids are invited.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’d shoot your grandma a call, actually. Say something simple like “Hi grandma, I know it sounds silly but I just wanted to clarify– you said “M’s family” would be coming in your email.  Do you all know that we aren’t inviting all the kids?”

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yeah, clarify now. Otherwise it’ll be harder to say no to them once they’ve booked hotel rooms!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would clarify now. Otherwise, you may be letting them think everyone is invited. It’s going to be tough to go back and fix the situation after travel arrangements have been made and hotels have been booked!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree that clarifying now will save you trouble in the long run, especially if great aunt is planning on spending money on a hotel room for people that aren’t going to be in attendance! It’s awkward, yes, but I think it’s even more awkward to assume that people are invited BEFORE getting an invitation!

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